I live in a larger community, about 25,000. But it has a small town feel in many ways, everybody knows everyone's business. Good in some ways, if there is an illness or other trouble the town mobilizes to help very quickly. On the other hand, everyone knows everyone's business....
I do not live in a small town- but I grew up in the same home my parents live in now, in a community where few people have moved. Most of my parentís ďgood family friendsĒ are neighbors and people I have known since I was a little kid. I graduated high school with tons and tons of people I knew since kindergarten and my mom is still friends with a lot of their parents. So the social circle is small-town like in so many ways.
I didnít like my brotherís girlfriend for the longest time, mostly because I knew and didnít like a lot of her friends. I didnít know her specifically, but her friends went to school with me and were a bad crowd. This was years and years agoÖmaybe all of those people are wonderful and nice now. But I remember them how they were 9 years ago, and completely judged my brotherís girlfriend unfairly based on that. She is a perfectly nice, awesome person- but it did take a while for me to get rid of my initial judgment.
Itís so hard- but now that you are aware, you can do your best to talk yourself out if it when you feel that way. Here's to hoping that this guy is wonderful and everything that your SIL sees!
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."