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knightsbff posted 1/27/2014 16:54 PM

I heard a mention on satellite radio today of how much infidelity is estimated to have cost worldwide due to lost productivity. The number was staggering. I tried to look it up online and there was a report on yahoo finance where a study estimated 17 million a day is lost by members of one infidelity website alone. That was calculated based on a survey that 38 percent of respondents spent 1/2 hour daily conducting their affair online and using the US min wage of $7.25 per hour.

I'm embarrassed and ashamed of the time I wasted in contact with OM. Time I stole from my employers, my husband, my children, myself.

I wonder how much affect cheating has had on the global economy....

Brandon808 posted 1/27/2014 19:32 PM

Another BH on SI talked about this. The OM was a co-worker and he barely got any work done because of the A.

The A has often been compared to an addiction. I definitely think for some (maybe a majority?) of WS it is an escapism/coping mechanism for their internal issues. Following that logic it isn't that difficult to see how it would impact the WS life in much the same way as other addictions do.

AnnieOakley posted 1/27/2014 20:33 PM

I would imagine the number would be staggering, especially once you factor in after dday the hours that (potentially) all parties loose.

I know there were many work hours that I 'stole' from my employer too. Lost in thought, unable to focus, talking on the phone, reading SI, etc. etc.

[This message edited by AnnieOakley at 8:35 PM, January 27th (Monday)]

cantaccept posted 1/27/2014 20:44 PM

I know that my productivity at work has only been a fraction of what it was pre-a.

It has been over a year since dday#2 and I am just beginning to be productive again.

I was lucky that I had 7years of a very good work record and very empathic co-workers.

Not just the loss of productivity but the errors. I just could not concentrate, could not focus and to be honest, did not care. I lost my enjoyment for work as for much of the rest of my life.

On the upswing, but it is a daily struggle.

Can

UnexpectedSong posted 1/27/2014 20:59 PM

Y'know... Infidelity is stupid and wrong... But these kinds of statistics are plain nonsense. One could argue that infidelity produces huge profits for the online companies, hotels, cell phones, and whatnot.

And on the flip side, not all time and attention away from the family is a negative. Both my H and I have regular rehearsals and are often not home. The kids are fine.

Infidelity does not need any justification for its foulness. It is sufficiently awful on its own.