I'm embarrassed and ashamed of the time I wasted in contact with OM. Time I stole from my employers, my husband, my children, myself.
I wonder how much affect cheating has had on the global economy....
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
The A has often been compared to an addiction. I definitely think for some (maybe a majority?) of WS it is an escapism/coping mechanism for their internal issues. Following that logic it isn't that difficult to see how it would impact the WS life in much the same way as other addictions do.
I know there were many work hours that I 'stole' from my employer too. Lost in thought, unable to focus, talking on the phone, reading SI, etc. etc.
[This message edited by AnnieOakley at 8:35 PM, January 27th (Monday)]
It has been over a year since dday#2 and I am just beginning to be productive again.
I was lucky that I had 7years of a very good work record and very empathic co-workers.
Not just the loss of productivity but the errors. I just could not concentrate, could not focus and to be honest, did not care. I lost my enjoyment for work as for much of the rest of my life.
On the upswing, but it is a daily struggle.
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
I attempted R, he was a lie
And on the flip side, not all time and attention away from the family is a negative. Both my H and I have regular rehearsals and are often not home. The kids are fine.
Infidelity does not need any justification for its foulness. It is sufficiently awful on its own.