Topic: NY Text
Member # 21851
| Posted: 6:34 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014|
So I was sent a txt message by an xGF on New Years at exactly mid-night . I wasn't sure how to take it so I didn't respond as I have been NC since late October. The thing that gets me is why the message at Mid-night? Our split was amicable but very emotional. We broke it off clean in late May. I have been wanting to post this as it triggered me then and I triggered today.... :')
"Pain is weakness leaving the body"
Reformed BS 39 xWW 34
Two kids 5 and 2
Posts: 952 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: NW
Member # 33226
| Posted: 6:45 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014|
Midnight on NYE can be an intense time for some people - reflecting on the past, caught up in the emotion of the moment, and possibly lubricated to the point of making impulsive and ill-advised contact.
Not sure if any of that might apply with the xGF. I'm sorry you're triggering, knight. ((((hugs))))
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Posts: 26166 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 30346
| Posted: 8:24 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014|
Why?? To get your attention.
It sounds very intentional, to contact you at a time of looking forward. Maybe wondering if you were with someone/kissing someone at that moment…and a wee bit manipulative too…just because if you were kissing someone, then she was hoping to take your mind away from that other person.
Yeah. And possibly a little tipsy, which makes you occasionally go against your better judgement.
me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Posts: 4215 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 36445
| Posted: 3:16 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014|
Was it personally addressed to you? As a lot of people send bulk text messages to everyone on their contact lists in their phone/email etc. I got a few from random people I rarely hear from but they still have my number in their phone, so I am guessing the same thing was done to me.
Maybe that's why you got one?
[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 3:16 AM, January 28th (Tuesday)]
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Posts: 1376 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 37933
| Posted: 5:23 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014|
She was putting a feeler out there because she hasn't found anything better.
Posts: 421 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 42104
| Posted: 12:53 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014|
NY eve is a time to be with your love and kiss them at midnight. She was clearly missing you and wanted to reach out to you.
Did you tell your BW about this text message? If so I wouldn't wait any longer.
Posts: 191 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
Member # 14003
| Posted: 12:57 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014|
Was it personally addressed to you? As a lot of people send bulk text messages to everyone on their contact lists in their phone/email etc.
^^^^This. I wouldn't assume it was anything more than a mass text.
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Posts: 13833 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
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