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hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 1:13 AM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
I list on Match that I do not date married men. Not only do I list it in my "must haves" (never married, widowed, divorced), but I say like three times: "I do not date married men. If you are married do not message me. Seriously, I will track down your wife and tell her."
What part of that says "Hey if you're married you should totally message me."
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:23 AM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
The part where they don't bother to read your profile? Or they read it as a challenge? Or they read it and think they're SO special and amazing, it must not apply to them?
Blergh on all three counts.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 3:23 AM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
I hope you do track down the wives!!!!!
hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 3:30 AM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
I just ignore them most of the time. Got pissed today at one and just responded "sorry I don't dare married men." He responded "ouch, harsh. For the record I'm getting divorced." I just hit block. What's harsh about staring the fact that you are married and I don't date men that are married? I think ignoring that request is harsh!
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 3:35 AM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
yes, there seems to be a "I'm separated; I'm not married" mindset...close cousin to the "We're separated even though we are still living in the same house"; which is only slightly removed from the "my wife doesn't know and therefore I am discreet". Not all are creeps, but the once who aren't quite divorced don't understand it is too damn early to be dating...
2 years into this dating in life's prime thing, I don't even like dating recently (like in the last 6 months recent) divorced men...
There is just so much "broken" out there and dating isn't the way to "fix" yourself people....
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 8:13 AM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
Because they are so special that you will forget all that baggage. 
Separated is not divorced, wish they would get their lives sorted first.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:20 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
But but but!!!!! My ex would tell you that separated IS divorced. Well, it's not married, that's for sure. And if you're married "in name only", then you're not really married. At least that's what he told me...
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 12:56 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014
When I was doing OLD, I found that listing what you don't want, no matter what, is a complete waste of time, and often attracts those who want to prove you wrong. Oddly, it's much more effective to mention everything as a positive, like, "I highly value the sanctity and intimacy of commitment and want to be with someone else who shares that value."
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 2:46 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014
I think Ama's right...very few people seem to read all of a profile...they're looking at the pictures and hitting the highlights.
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
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