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User Topic: Black hole abyss......
She11ybeanz
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Sad  Posted: 9:42 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So.... since I missed time last week because my 17 month old was projectile vomiting and had HORRIBLE diarrhea....despite me taking work home this past weekend and making an effort.... I am still taking a hit without pay on my paycheck this week. Even when they used up all of my accrued vacation and sick time.

I can't afford this. FML. This couldn't come at a worse time. I have to come up with a $100 registration fee OUT MY BUTT this week for daycare so she can start next week and now have to cut my food budget down even more to cover this hit.

My boss was unforgiving. In the past....she let me go in the hole for my marathon saying "I know you will make it up by the end of the year" and this time when I told her I had worked through lunches and worked over the week before last, she said, "Payroll has been processed" or re-translated, "Eat it!"

I just calmly went to my cubicle and had a silent panic attack and cried.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry Shelly. That sucks :(


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OW
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Posts: 2624 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Shelly))))


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3267 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didn't you state once in a post that you are a SENIOR accountant? I think it is past time that you should start looking for a better opportunity. That place doesn't seem to treat you very well. And from what you've posted, the pay could be better too.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((She11ybeanz)))


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

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Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18702 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, Shelly...keep swimmin' honey, keep swimmin'.

Here's the thing - it's one thing to let some time slide for something like a marathon, time I'm guessing wasn't even close to what you needed last week to care for Piper. Time that I would guess would be easily made up within the pay period immediately following. (TOTAL assumptions on my part).

It's a completely different thing when the company would set precedent giving you the opportunity to "repay" the time when others cannot. It is not in their best interest to do that lest they get called on the carpet for doing so - and given payroll is probably seen by more than one set of eyes at your company given, it makes even more sense.

I get the sense that you expected them to let you make the time up - that is something you really have to try hard not to do. The "seek forgiveness later" route isnít a good rule of thumb to live by and doesn't work in this case.

I think at this point you really have to try and focus on the job and not try to miss any more time especially given you are heading into the toughest season of the year. Get Piper in that daycare if you have to beg your dad for help and really focus on your job and then once youíre settled perhaps start looking for something else. This situation aside, youíve seemed to really like the job and the company and Iíd hate to have you leave something in which youíre building tenure over something that honestly wasnít due you.

I know that once you're more removed from the shock of it, you'll get all this. You're a smart cookie.


AJ's MOM

[This message edited by ajsmom at 12:58 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)]


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was actually half as much time as I took for the marathon which is what surprised me.... but like you all said....I'm just gonna keep swimming.... can't sink now! And, I actually make really good money for the area I live in and jobs are scarce. I can't complain about that. I just have A LOT of debt too.....

BUT.....I have a 3/4 year plan of getting out of debt (or what of it I can...my student loan debt may be a forever thing) but once I get back on my feet.....get my credit back in order and pay off some of those pesky medical bills from when I was pregnant and didn't have insurance and had an emergency ER visit....then I am "hoping" I can qualify to buy Piper and I a house!

I have to think LONG-TERM....and know that all of these short-term sacrifices will be worth it in the end!!! Even the ones involving my sister!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:25 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely better opportunities out here--- especially for a senior accountant.... I hope they find you soon Shelly.


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JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give the job opening I sent you a shot. It is a remote accountant job with great benefits. You could work from home.


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On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

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