BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
For me the point is to save a family if at all possible. I still loved my FWH, he was remorseful, he was willing to do the work. I was willing to give him and our family a chance. If it didn't work, if I couldn't get over the "dealbreaker" feelings, than I would divorce.
Almost 4 years later, we have a good marriage. We are very much in love with each other. We are happy. Our family is intact. That was the point for me. (((Confusedfor3)))
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson