Me: BS45, Her: WS46
Long story short - my partner (WS) and I have been together for 17+ years. We've been through a lot, including cancer and a hysterectomy (both for me). WS told me in November that she had a one-night stand with (what I thought was) a good friend of ours (OP1), AND that she had had an several-months-long affair with someone else 8 years ago (OP2). Then 2 weeks ago she told me that she had another one-night stand (OP3). So I am just truly in shock, and don't know what to do. I knew we had issues with intimacy stemming from my loss of hormones and other stuff, but I had no idea it was like this.
She is staying at her mom's house (her mom is out of town for the winter) for the next month while she figures out what she wants. She says she wants to stay married, but only if she can figure out how to stop hurting me.
I have been surviving, I guess - but this morning I woke up in a very dark place. Just can't figure out how she could do this to us. We are in IC and MC, but I don't see my IC for the 1st time until Monday, so I'm really feeling alone.
I don't understand the point of the "180" - if I am not honest with her about how shitty I feel, doesn't that make it seem like I don't care? I WANT her to know what this has done to me.
Thanks for letting me share. I'm glad this forum is here.
Married 14 years, together 17
DDays: 7/05, 11/13, 1/14
Counting the days until divorce is final...