You know what, I don't know if I have a question here. This just royally, royally sucks.
"A unicorn isn't a unicorn. It's a donkey with a plunger stuck to it's face."
That was a very sobering moment for him. I hope that this gets through to your WW.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Keep solace in the fact that they know you did the honorable thing in separating.
To be honest, after a while I slowly made contact less and less. Without the connection to my ex we had less and less to talk about. It was just a natural drifting apart.
WH comes from a large family....MIL and FIL are gone now. I always made the effort to stay in touch since we live so far away not WH. I no longer make that effort...I leave it up to WH. Everyone knows something is wrong and meetings are strained if I am there. However, I have known WH and family most of my life so we muddle through and I don't feel bad about any of it.
I would still do anything I could for any of my in-laws, but WH's choices have freed me up to put my family first and I am doing so for the first time ever. Perhaps this is true for you, too?
I think I would assume blood supports blood, especially in the early days. The passage of time may enable you to maintain some contact with her family members and perhaps some relationship. I hope so if this is what you want.
"Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live."
So I will probably lose most of my support in our home area bc my family lives 4 hr away. They won't believe what he has done and will blame me,... That is what happened to wife 1
After dday, I reached out to MIL. She never responded because he had asked them not to contact me. Essentially I lost his whole family after 11 years.
The only person who reached out was his grandmother, and she passed over the summer. She told me once I was family, I would always be family to her.
It was heartbreaking, but it doesn't always have go that way. I've seen people reunite with the Ex's family after some time has passed.