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Chippednotbroken posted 1/28/2014 21:49 PM

I find myself flirting. I know I'm doing it. I tell myself nope too far, stop talking. I am divorcing. No contact since Jan 3. I checked out awhile back. Realized I wasn't in love and hadn't been even before I knew about this most recent affair (I've learned of others over the last few months). I had other issues to deal with other than the affair, he had become increasingly abusive, physically and emotionally. Called me fat and disgusting. Pointed out I had three kids (all ours mind you) and no one would ever want me.
No that I find myself unconcerned with him, I'm flirting. I have no idea if they are flirting back as I can't imagine why they would but I don't know why... I am not going to do anything, I'm confident in that but why can't I shut my mouth?

Chicky posted 1/28/2014 21:58 PM

I am no expert but it sounds to me like your self esteem took a hit with his affair(s) and hurtful comments. So, subconsciously (since you say you can't shut your mouth ) you are seeking validation from the opposite sex. Every human being wants to feel wanted particularly when they've been made to feel like no one ever would. (((((Chippednotbroken)))))

RealityStinks posted 1/28/2014 22:01 PM

Gently, you are married, doing things that you probably should not be, and trying to justify those actions. Does that sound familiar?

I get where you are coming from. I have been there too. The attention is nice, but I do not encourage it or reciprocate it. I will not cheat on my wife. She will remain in that position until we divorce.

Hang in there.

Chippednotbroken posted 1/28/2014 22:05 PM

I know that's why I know better.

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