It hasn't worked out for us because fWS is not much of a planner. Its just not who she is. She comes up with ideas but I'm usually the one making the plans.
I say this as someone whose date nights also basically only consist of that, but we have 3 kids under 6 including a 4 month old and no family around, so we do what we can
Here are some that we did prior to arrival of baby #3:
cooking class together (so fun!)
daytime hike (date doesn't have to be at night)
explore the closest city as adults and tourists
take a blown glass class (seems more interesting to non-artistic types than say pottery or painting which are also great)
really any kind of interactive class you can take together will be a lot of fun.
God, I wish we'd done this much years ago, but never had the time or money to do so with 3 kids at home. It helped us immensely, especially when things were very new and raw, to get away and have some distraction, something different un-A related to focus on.
We also race in triathlons together, which involves a lot of training. This can be fun; we may go to the beach and ride along the coast and then jump in the ocean, then hang out at the beach together. This time of year we take swim class together and go to the gym.
We also just enjoy trying new restaurants in the towns near to us. And whenever possible we take a trip to someplace new and try some fun adventures (bungee jumping, white shark cage diving, rappelling, etc--I know, we are a bit crazy). This stuff is super bonding and even sexy!
We talk a lot about our memories and how much fun we have had together. It helps get us through the tough times. Plus we enjoy planning our next adventure!
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Dressing up for dinner, (new cuisine) then going to the shooting range.
Camping for the first time ever
Our first baseball game
Getting up super early to watch the sunrise, then going for pancakes
Date night at home, sitting in our jammies, filling out Do You Know Your Husband/Wife? quiz booklets, and eating junk food. (this was one of my favorites)
We've taken a couple inexpensive weekend trips to new locations and done touristy things. If you're in/close to a major city, check out all the tourist traps. I live just outside a major hub and I can't tell you how many things there I have not experienced.
Anything and everything that we had never done, we put it on the list. We've been chipping away at it. We do girly things, we do dude things. It's a mixture. The point is, we're having fun and we're together.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
I 3rd the dancing classes. (Moo was the catalyst for our starting ballroom classes, by the way, and I remain grateful.)
W had to arrange stuff for us in the beginning. It turns out she's better at finding things to do than I ever was, so I think reversing roles could help.
If you're in a town that does Groupon sales, buy tickets to something you've never seen before. Get a 2fer1 to a type of restaurant you've never eaten before. Just go for it! I bought tickets for a pontoon airplane ride. We were picked up on the water by a restaurant, flew out of the bay, took a ride along the coast and watched dolphins, and then landed on the bay again and waded ashore by a golf course. Then had dinner at the restaurant we flew out of (the public dock was full so we had to do an alternative beach landing, oh darn!). All because of a groupon!
My FWH and I each have a "savings" account that money is deposited into each month. The rules are that I can only use my money on him and vice versa. That's how we can do surprises for each other (and pay for them) but because the money is in our joint account system, we are both accountable.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Things that make you laugh and have fun together - amusement park, water park, bowling, comedy club.
We are in the club that don't have relatives to watch kids for us (and finances don't allow paying too much for a babysitter to go out all night long), so lots of our date nites had to be in. Playing cards or a board game with some appies was fun. Wii games - wii dance always gets a laugh. Laser tag, paint ball (fun with a group of people). Some pubs have trivia nights, so that's something different than just sitting around and eating.