My history is documented in a couple of topics on this site. Since Christmas, I've come to realize just how happy I can be on my own. Very short series of events for me that started in August. Still on the D train and there is no turning back. I can say I tried more than most men would have. I ran myself through the ringer and expected to come out the other side with a sense of accomplishment. My problem for the longest was I tried to fix our relationship. Doesn't work when only one person wants to do it. I tried every method you can think of and never truly focused on myself. All the new BS on here should take stock in what our seasoned vets have to say. No one has all the answers, but like me, there where many here who could see the signs and warned me on what could happen.
Tomorrow is my 35th birthday. It's unusual to not share it with the woman I've loved for the last 12 years, but I'm ok with that. I have my children, my job, health, family, and friends. Who could ask for anything more? I still struggle with the A from time to time. It never just goes away and it will take some time before I can not shed a tear. The important part is it doesn't guide my every word or action. I am in control of my emotions and my future. So many times I felt jealous of those who got the gift of R on this site. My entire situation moved at light speed and it seems to be better this way, for me. I can't imagine what you are going through and the struggles that come to both sides. I applaud you and your dedication!
I promise I'm almost done. Haven't been on here like I used to be and I think it's because I'm no longer looking for the magic pill to fix my marriage. There is no pill my friends. Hard work and commitment to the task is required. I wish you all the best of luck and give endless hugs to those who are less fortunate. I promise, it gets better with time! Nice guys don't have to finish last or first, or even second. Sometimes it's just important that you finish.
[This message edited by No12turn2 at 9:22 AM, January 29th (Wednesday)]
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.