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TheAgonyOfIt posted 1/30/2014 23:09 PM

An interesting take, interesting and worth skimming for those who struggle with the need to take the "higher road."

Ascendant posted 1/31/2014 09:08 AM

This looks like something I can get behind....good stuff?

TheAgonyOfIt posted 1/31/2014 16:34 PM

I've only started it. It's fairly academic and it's philosophy, so it's nothing definitive, but rather about "on the one hand, but on the other hand." But for "nice" folks like me, it's good ethical food for thought. the author is a professor of criminal law so it's written from that viewpoint, although he seems to touch on how these ethics can affect private law (and situations of betrayal) as well.

I wanted something meaty, above pop psych, to dig into. This book seems to mostly support the moral and even psychological right to retributive justice (at the societal, not necessarily personal, level), although in reading snippets of his later work, it seems his stance has mellowed to higher levels of forgiveness.

I'm not sure yet how i will ultimately feel about this book, but so far it's interesting...

Ascendant posted 1/31/2014 16:46 PM

I bought it.

TheAgonyOfIt posted 1/31/2014 19:57 PM

Wow! Our own little book club! : )

Hope to hear your opinions on the book! Will have to seek out your story too!

Ascendant posted 1/31/2014 23:33 PM

yeah....I'll start soon, let you know what I think.

mainlyinpain posted 1/31/2014 23:34 PM

I looked the book up on Amazon.....
and so had to laugh when I saw this in the middle of the page....
What Other Items Do Customers Buy After Viewing This Item?
Diabolical Revenge & Sabotage by anonymous
Kindle Edition
5.0 out of 5 stars (1)
$2.99

Can't decide which one is more appealing...no, I know

TheAgonyOfIt posted 1/31/2014 23:57 PM

okay that one is so worth a picture!

This definitely appeals to my black humor... or should it be gallows humor?... coping mechanism, and reminds me of when I was the star of my own little horror movie!

Ascendant posted 2/1/2014 08:58 AM

Wait....there are books on how to do this....oh, hell....

mainlyinpain posted 2/1/2014 23:43 PM

Reading is FUNdamental

Ascendant posted 3/27/2014 01:36 AM

About halfway through the book.....really digging it so far.

Dawn58 posted 3/28/2014 03:27 AM

Just ordered the book, looks like something I can definitely relate too!

TheAgonyOfIt posted 4/15/2014 18:16 PM

hey there Ascendant,

i've been not active on SI for a while, saw that you had read this book, or much of it. did it help you at all in some way? Would love to know. I wound up dabbling in other stuff and have been all over the map. Too bad about my little book club idea here, my intention was good but my follow through, not so good! Hope you're doing okay!

Ascendant posted 4/16/2014 08:54 AM

Mmmm....I don't know if 'help' is the right word...it certainly provides several reasons why revenge could be a healthy idea, as well as hard-earned forgiveness. Forgiveness for the spouse and/or the AP needs to come only after they've earned it; giving forgiveness too easily cheapens it. I'm not quite done with it yet, but I'm getting there. I'll write a full report once I finish.

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