DD#1 - 6th Oct 13 - TT
There's a thread in Wayward about the AP leaving the BS alone. At first I couldn't relate to this because the APS doesn't know.
However, the AP had another AP (who is also married) and he has contacted me several times which has caused major issues in my relationship.
So the OW was having 2 As, one with my WBF and one with a MM.
I am now no contact with the MM as he has been very insistent that I tell him the details I know. I hold no loyalty to him and won't tell. I did suggest he tells his own wife though.
My WBF, the MM and the OW work together. It was agreed that WBF does no more work for either of them. And I was happy with that arrangement so we can concentrate on R and have no contact.
However, my WBF has just accepted some work with MM on the understanding they don't talk about personal matters and WBF has no contact with OW. I know this agreement is in place. He checked it out with me and I said yes. My issue is that the topic of the As will come up in conversation between them and we will return to the drama. MM is still seeing OW and I fear he still wants to get the details out of us.
Firstly, do we treat the MM as a BS? He is a WS as well, and should be loyal to his marriage.
And secondly, is it realistic to expect them never to speak of the A again when they are working together?
DD#2 - 9th Nov 13 - Full disclosure
DD#3 - 12th May 14 - in R
7 week PA
"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive" - CS Lewis