Forum Archives

Return to Forum List

Rock Bottom ...

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

livebythesea posted 1/31/2014 11:03 AM

Last Thursday, after I discovered a new email address and confronted H what this email address was about ... we had another feud! Not again he says. Yap, again. After getting absolutely nothing out of my new discovery, I felt weak, literally. Felt hopeless. Seems every piece of evidence I find leads to NO WHERE! There always seems to be an exit (in his favour). No solid proof. His answer to this email address was, "I don't know, I can't remember". Really, like you create a new email address for nothing.

Later that day, I demanded we go to counselling. He was hesitant, didn't want to go. He did not need it he said, I told him, I need it. Then he says, "you go". I was furious. He slept downstairs that night. Woke up the next morning, went to work. Not a word. Got home, and to my surprise he apologized and agreed to go to counseling with me.

We've been good since. Now, I must be loosing my mind cause now that he has agreed to join me in counseling, I am scared to go. I am scared that for whatever reason that going will stir things up and go down from there. I have read lots on SI and counseling is good for some and not so good for others.

Wanted to update my readers about H apologizing and agreeing to join me in counseling.

Another chapter ... we will go to counseling eventually.

annb posted 1/31/2014 17:41 PM

There is no easy button fixing this. I had fits of rage and anger for a long, long, time...years, hundreds of arguments. Don't be hard on yourself.

"I don't remember" is not an acceptable answer, he created the address, he certainly remembers. Have you thought about installing a secret keylogger on your home computer? Is this where you are finding evidence?

Counseling will be great TO STIR THINGS UP! You cannot move forward with denial, lack of clarity, trust, and rugsweeping. Stirring the pot will force the issue and hopefully some resolution in time.


[This message edited by annb at 5:42 PM, January 31st (Friday)]

Keepcalm posted 1/31/2014 20:16 PM

Go to marriage counseling. My husband and I went, it took us two tries to find a good counselor. I found counseling a safe place to explore our feelings, and bring up any concerns.
Good Luck and Hugs

Return to Forum List

© 2002-2018 ®. All Rights Reserved.