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It's been a good couple of weeks - no major issues, so why

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stunnedin12 posted 1/31/2014 15:11 PM

can I not relax and just enjoy the respite!?!

I hate the background thought always lurking that I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. (so to speak).

I know - time. Delightful time.
Actions - not words - consistent actions.
Words - not berating me and not being a jerk.

Skan posted 1/31/2014 15:40 PM

Because your system is still on hyper-aware status. Your body is still geared up in that fight or flight pattern and it takes a long time for it to let down. You body has to re-learn how to do that, and only after your mind starts to relax, and then nothing happens for a while, will your body start to slowly and cautiously unwind as well.

It really doesn't have anything to do with you, IFKWIM. It's a eons-old response built into your body to keep you alive.

Which is a very long way of saying that darned 4-letter word: time.

Keepcalm posted 1/31/2014 20:22 PM

Two years out, I still find myself on alert. I consider it part of the new smarter me. I don't drive myself crazy with it, but I consider it a new skill set.
Fool me once...

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