Well Ive been taking your advice and doing the 180 for the past few days. Only responding to texts about the animals, and only sending them about finances.
She texted me today and said she had invited another couple (our best couple friends) over for take out, and she'd "love" me to come over too if I wanted. I told her I had plans tonight (I didn't, but 180 so there ya go).
Later she texted me that she was too scared to go to MC tomorrow. She is worried about my anger and her "lack of support." I responded that I was going, and that I would not yell, but that we need to figure out how to communicate our anger in a safe environment.
She responded that she agreed completely, and that she knew it was important to hear what I had to say, but that she wasn't up to it yet. I said okay, that I would be there, and if she didn't feel up to talking tomorrow, we could do it another time.
This has to be progress, right? She is maybe starting to realize that I have something to say, and maybe life isn't all rainbows and butterflies...