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Williesmom posted 1/31/2014 22:11 PM

I had my date tonight with the guy that had a mutual friend. Apparently, my friend told him the gory details of wxh's cheating.

I felt pity. I don't want or need anyone's pity. I felt embarrassed and humiliated.

And he had a weak handshake. And he paid with a coupon.

FirstLoveGone posted 1/31/2014 22:25 PM

Oh Williesmom! I'm so sorry you feel this way.

I wish I could give you IRL hugs.

Try to pamper yourself tomorrow. Take it easy on yourself.

nowiknow23 posted 1/31/2014 22:28 PM

((((WM))))

Amazonia posted 1/31/2014 23:44 PM

((WM))

Not cool that your mutual friend would do that to you. Way to color someone's opinion!

Are you going to say anything to the friend?

And for the record, you have NOTHING to feel embarrassed about, because you are awesome.

Brandon808 posted 2/1/2014 00:05 AM

t/j

And he had a weak handshake.
This has always been a tricky one for me. Most of the time when I go to shake a woman''s hand it''s like they want to squeeze instead of shaking hands. I don''t want to be too firm either for fear it will come off as aggressive. Usually when shaking hands with other men it's like a guy thing. Like when a father shakes hands with his daughter's date he subtly letting him know "Screw up and I'll hurt you". Or if a guy is with his wife/gf and they meet a new guy you the new guy is trouble when he pulls one of those kind of handshakes.

And he paid with a coupon.
Duuuuuude. That was just wrong. When I married we used coupons, but we were freakin'' broke. Half the time it was her idea. But using a coupon for a date? I don''t know whether to be pissed that my gender is being so poorly represented or grateful that guys like him make me look better by comparison. I''m going to go with door #1.
end t/j

@Williesmom,
This guy acted like he had pity for you? This guy? Captain Coupon?
FTG

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 12:08 AM, February 1st, 2014 (Saturday)]

persevere posted 2/1/2014 00:07 AM

First of all, you did NOTHING to feel humiliated - if anything, if the guy had his head on straight, he would realize what an incredible survivor you are, and if he took two minutes to get a sense of you, he would know how amazing you are. Seriously.

Second, a coupon? On a first date? AYFKM? Says far more about him than it does you my friend....you dodged a bullet WM, really.

You are one of my favorite posters - you are honest and resilient, and just an amazingly nice and together person, from my very humble perspective. If your "date" didn't take the time to realize that, or thought it relevant to focus on your past, he's incredibly short sighted and not someone you need to waste any time on.

Williesmom is a strong, kind, wonderful lady - and don't let anyone ever make you think different, because they are simply wrong. ((Hugs))

InnerLight posted 2/1/2014 00:33 AM

You are one of my favorite posters - you are honest and resilient, and just an amazingly nice and together person, from my very humble perspective. If your "date" didn't take the time to realize that, or thought it relevant to focus on your past, he's incredibly short sighted and not someone you need to waste any time on.

Me too .

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. Your friend was an idiot to blab so much about you.

Coupon on a first date? He's the one that should be embarrassed!

[This message edited by InnerLight at 12:34 AM, February 1st (Saturday)]

FaithFool posted 2/1/2014 01:22 AM

Hello Captain Coupon, have you met Cheezy Nut Man?

(((WM)))

wonderingbull posted 2/1/2014 10:34 AM

No need to feel humiliated....

Consider the whole package the guy presented... Coupon, weak handshake, bringing up the exH cheating (no tact)...

Bullet dodged...

WB

cmego posted 2/1/2014 11:28 AM

(((((WM))))))

*shaking head* it is like me and how embarrassed by what my EX did to me…and hearing you say that makes me just want to reach through the computer and shake you!

What happened?? Did he just want to prattle on about your ex? Don't let some weak handshake, coupon using dude rattle who you are. (…and YES, a handshake matters. If it is weak, I assume the guy is weak too.)

What an ass.

Onward.

Sad in AZ posted 2/1/2014 11:45 AM

Honey, none of this defines you. You are awesome, and the fact that you survived and thrived after the 'gory details' you suffered is your real story.

I hope you get your equilibrium back soon.

(((((Williesmom)))))

SisterMilkshake posted 2/1/2014 12:01 PM

You are awesome, Williesmom.

I am sorry that you felt humiliated and embarrassed.

I agree with Brandon on the handshake thing, though. I have actually had a few men hurt me with their handshakes. No thank you. I would prefer the "weak" handshake. Better yet, how about bringing back the days when the woman presented her hand and the man bent over and kissed it? Anyone? Anyone?

Okay, I admit, I am out of the dating etiquette thingy. But, being a groupon and coupon queen, I would have been just fine if my date used a coupon. In fact, my respect for him would have gone up a notch. Here is someone who isn't embarrassed about who he is and doesn't like wasting money. I am not a tightwad, but I love saving some money. Why pay for two dinners at a restaurant when you can buy 1, get 1 free? It makes sense to me to use the coupon. But, this is old married lady and I am way out of the loop on dating.

(((WM)))

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 12:03 PM, February 1st (Saturday)]

Williesmom posted 2/1/2014 12:10 PM

Sister, the coupon is ok, but not on a first date. It's like he doesn't value the experience of meeting me enough to pay full price.

The handshake was really bad. Just really bad. Be confident in yourself, buddy. It was like grabbing a limp dick. Seriously.

better4me posted 2/1/2014 12:23 PM

The handshake was really bad. Just really bad. Be confident in yourself, buddy. It was like grabbing a limp dick. Seriously.
Annnndddddd, she's back!

Sorry you were disappointed last night. You will bounce back but give yourself a little bit of time to process the disappointment. And remember, this is how the weak prospects are eliminated from our dating herd--coupons and weak handshakes and cheesy nuts....

cmego posted 2/1/2014 12:47 PM

The handshake was really bad. Just really bad. Be confident in yourself, buddy. It was like grabbing a limp dick. Seriously.

Annnndddddd, she's back!

^^^This. THIS is why I keep checking SI whilst I should be finishing my paper.

I totally agree. There is something masculine about a good handshake.

Vulcanized posted 2/1/2014 12:59 PM

It was like grabbing a limp dick.

Ugh. If this is how this man acts when his game is on, I can't imagine how unbearable he'd be once he's in a LTR.

SisterMilkshake posted 2/1/2014 13:01 PM

Be confident in yourself, buddy. It was like grabbing a limp dick. Seriously.
This is why I like you so much, Williesmom, and enjoy your posts.

persevere posted 2/1/2014 14:10 PM

Annnndddddd, she's back!

Williesmom posted 2/1/2014 14:36 PM

If I don't laugh about it, I'll cry. Thanks for validating my feelings of "ugh" and also making me laugh about it.

HurtsButImOK posted 2/1/2014 14:49 PM

Shame on him, FTG and NEXT!

Sorry his pathetic self tried to bring you down. Water seeks its own level, seems he was trying to bring you down so he could feel better about himself. What a monumental dick.

(((WM)))

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