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User Topic: What was your wedding song
WarpSpeed
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We were driving home from dinner and a movie last night when the song we did our first dance to at the wedding came on the radio.

Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I would not leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are


Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care

I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.

I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take 'till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.

I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from my heart
I couldn't love you any better
I love you just the way you are.

We were both Billy Joel fans and those words fit so well for how we felt and the promise of the wedding vows. It struck me last night that during the part of our marriage where we both let it be less than it should, I did still love her just the way she was.

I wish that we had worked on making it better before an A drew attention to the state of our marriage, but those words in that song were always true for me. It never entered my mind that she didn't have the same commitment, even in the bad times.

What about you and your song?


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 27 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1525 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
steadfast1973
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Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At Last, by Etta James.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
FracturedSoul
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Member # 41792
Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amazed by Lonestar... the song always made me sm8le...now it just makes me sad...


BS-33
FWH-33
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 09/12/2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.

Posts: 60 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: South Africa
Bobbi_sue
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didn't have a "Wedding song" but for our vow renewal it was "They're Playing our Song" by Neal McCoy. Perhaps not deep, but fitting for us at that point in our lives. There are times we must "drop what we are doing" for time to devote to just each other...

Somebody's at the front door
I can hear 'em knockin'
Your mama's on the phone and she feels like talkin'
There's chicken on the barbecue, barbecuein'
Don't worry about it baby just
Drop what you're doing

'Cause they're playin' our song on the radio
Okay Mister D.J. and a way to go
A million watts of love power comin' on strong
Dance with me darlin', they're playin' our song

Oh, the house needs cleanin'
The grass needs mowin'
We both got places that we need to be goin'
Tomorrow's a big day
Better get ready
But tonight it's just you and me rockin' steady

'Cause they're playin' our song on the radio
Okay Mister D.J. and a way to go
A million watts of love power comin' on strong
Dance with me darlin', they're playin' our song

Yeah they're playin' our song on the radio
Okay Mister D.J. and a way to go
A million watts of love power comin' on strong
Dance with me darlin', they're playin' our song

Yeah they're playin' our song on the radio
Okay Mister D.J. and a way to go
A million watts of love power comin' on strong
Dance with me darlin', they're playin' our song


[This message edited by Bobbi_sue at 9:35 AM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


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Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's funny this question was posted because I just listened to our wedding song for the first time since before my A.

I listened to it on my way to work on Thursday, with tears in my eyes...the song still has so much meaning for me, and hearing it now makes me realize what an idiot I was for putting the best thing in my life at risk.

The song is Feels like Home by Chantal Krevizuk

Somethin' in your eyes, makes me wanna lose myself
Makes me wanna lose myself, in your arms
There's somethin' in your voice, makes my heart beat fast
Hope this feeling lasts, the rest of my life

If you knew how lonely my life has been
And how long I've been so alone
And if you knew how I wanted someone to come along
And change my life the way you've done

It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way back where I come from
It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way back where I belong

A window breaks, down a long, dark street
And a siren wails in the night
But I'm alright, 'cause I have you here with me
And I can almost see, through the dark there is light

Well, if you knew how much this moment means to me
And how long I've waited for your touch
And if you knew how happy you are making me
I never thought that I'd love anyone so much

It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way the back where I come from
It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way back where I belong
It feels like I'm all the way back where I belong


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

Posts: 912 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're The Inspiration - Chicago

You know our love was meant to be
The kind of love that lasts forever
And I want you here with me
From tonight, until the end of time

You should know, everywhere I go
Your always on my mind, in my heart, in my soul

Baby, you're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration

Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than I need you

And I know, yes, I know that it's plain to see
We're so in love when we're together
Now I know that I need you here with me
From tonight, until the end of time
You should know, everywhere I go
Your always on my mind, in my heart, in my soul

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration

Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
"No one needs you more than I need you"

Oh, ooh

Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than I need you

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration

When you love somebody
Till the end of time
When you love somebody
Always on my mind

No one needs you more than I
When you love somebody
Till the end of time
When you love somebody
Always on my mind

Apparently he forgot the words...


Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.

Posts: 6639 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
Suckerpunched66
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Member # 35700
Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't even hear it anymore. What makes this beautiful song so sad is that my WH picked this song himself. I never even heard it before.

True Companion by Marc Cohn

Baby I've been searching like everybody else
Can't say nothing different about myself
Sometimes I'm an angel and sometimes I'm cruel
But when it comes to love I'm just another fool

Yes I've climbed a mountain
I'm gonna swim the sea
There ain't no act of God, girl
Could keep you safe from me
My arms are reaching out,
out across this canyon

I'm asking you to be my true companion
True companion
True companion

So don't you dare and try to walk away
I've got my heart set on our wedding day
I've got this vision of a girl in white
Made my descision that its you alright
When I take your hand, I watch my heart set sail
I'll take my trembling fingers, and I'll lift up your veil
Then I'll take you home and with wild abandon
Make love to you just like a true companion
You are my true companion
I got a true companion
Whoa true companion

When the years have done irreparable harm
I can see us walking slowly arm in arm,
Just like that couple on the corner do
Cause girl I will always be in love with you
When I look in your eyes, I still see that spark
Until the shadows fall, until the room grows dark

Then when I leave this earth I'll be with the angels standing
I'll be out there waiting for my true companion
Just for my true companion
True companion
True companion


BS (me) 45
WS (the idiot) 42
DD 1 Feb 20, 2012
Married 16 years /together 20
2 beautiful 8yr old twins (b/g) My reason for living
TT until March 2012
numerous BJ's and 1 Day at a hotel where he threw it all away!

Posts: 37 | Registered: May 2012
turtle72
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just forced myself to listen to ours for the first time since dday too. "Look at Us' by Vince Gill.

Look at us
After all these years together
Look at us
After all that we've been through
Look at us
Still leaning on each other

If you want to see
How true love should be
Then just look at us

Look at you
Still pretty as a picture
Look at me
Still crazy over you
Look at us
Still believin' in forever

In a hundred years from now
I know without a doubt
They'll all look back and wonder how
We made it all work out

Chances are
We'll go down in history
When they want to see
How true love should be
They'll just look at us

I bawled my eyes out, but listened to the lyrics and realized it could be an R song too.


Me: 41 BS/WW/BS
2 kids 9 & 11, 3 steps 20, 8 and 3
BS 1st DDay 10/14/08, 5 mo. PA w/ MOW
WW 2nd D-Day 3/22/10, my exit A with HS BF
Separated 4/19/10
Married H #2 10/8/11
BS latest Dday 12/28/13 - PA w/ single COW

Posts: 2207 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Massachusetts
WarpSpeed
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would not leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are

The good part is that we are a better reflection of that verse now.

Rather than based on the swooning feelings of young love, that level of commitment is now grounded in the understanding that there will be times of trouble and there will be some bad times to go with the good times.

I think one of the biggest take aways my wife had during MC is that when you most feel like pushing away is when you most need to reach out. Looking at that part of the song in that light, the bad times are when you lean on the love and act on that love by reaching out and working through your times of trouble.

We do that a lot now. We are better able to pause in the moment and reflect and CHOOSE to reach out rather than pull away.

[This message edited by WarpSpeed at 11:23 AM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 27 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1525 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
AML04
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I Turn to You - Christina Aguilera

When I'm lost in the rain,
In your eyes I know I'll find the light
To light my way.
And when I'm scared,
And losing ground,
When my world is going crazy,
You can turn it all around.
And when I'm down you're there
- pushing me to the top.
You're always there,
giving me all you've got.
For a shield from the storm,
For a friend, for a love
to keep me safe and warm
I turn to you.
For the strength to be strong,
For the will to carry on
For everything you do,
for everything that's true
I turn to you.
When I lose the will to win,
I just reach for you and
I can reach the sky again.
I can do anything
'Cause your love is so amazing,
'Cause your love inspires me.
And when I need a friend,
You're always on my side
Giving me faith
taking me through the night
For a shield from the storm,
For a friend, for a love
to keep me safe and warm
I turn to you.
For the strength to be strong,
For the will to carry on
For everything you do,
for everything that's true
I turn to you.
For the arms to be my shelter
through all the rain,
For truth that will never change,
For someone to lean on,
For a heart I can rely on through anything,
For that one who I can run to...
For a shield from the storm,
For a friend, for a love
to keep me safe and warm
I turn to you
For the strength to be strong,
For the will to carry on
For everything you do,
for everything that's true
I turn to you.
For a shield from the storm,
For a friend, for a love
to keep me safe and warm
I turn to you.
For the strength to be strong,
For the will to carry on
For everything you do,
for everything that's true
I turn to you.
I turn to you...

Feel like crying now.


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It makes me very, very sad to remember this song.
We were so young, so na´ve...
If only I recognized back then what boundaries were....we may have been children of the 50s, teenagers of the 60s, but we certainly weren't hippies who were into 'free love' and all that...
So sad, a marriage that was dishonest from the get go...

We've Only Just Begun by The Carpenters (1972)

We've only just begun to live
White lace and promises
A kiss for luck and we're on our way
We've only begun

Before the rising sun we fly
So many roads to choose
We start out walking
And learn to run
And yes! We've just begun

Sharin' horizons that are new to us
Watchin' the signs along the way
Talkin' it over just the two of us
Workin' together day to day, together

And when the evening comes we smile
So much of life ahead
We'll find a place where there's room to grow
And yes! We've just begun

Sharin' horizons that are new to us
Watchin' the signs along the way
Talkin' it over just the two of us
Workin' together day to day, together, together

And when the evening comes we smile
So much of life ahead
We'll find a place where there's room to grow
And yes! We've just begun

[This message edited by looking forward at 12:24 PM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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obliquestrat
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Stand By Me"

When the night has come
And the land is dark
And the moon is the only light we'll see
No I won't be afraid
Oh, I won't be afraid
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

So darling, darling
Stand by me, oh stand by me
Oh stand, stand by me
Stand by me

If the sky that we look upon
Should tumble and fall
All the mountains should crumble to the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darling, darling
Stand by me, oh stand by me
Oh stand now, stand by me
Stand by me

So darling, darling
Stand by me, oh stand by me
Oh stand now, stand by me, stand by me
Whenever you're in trouble won't you stand by me
Oh stand by me, oh won't you stand now, stand
Stand by me


ME: BS 36 - HER: WS 33
TOGETHER: 2001 - MARRIED: 2008 - KIDS: 2 (3 and 1)
D-DAY: 1/6/2014 (accidentally discovered 3M EA which had developed into sexting, makeouts, tickets for biz trip to Disneyworld)
R, IC, MC, NC (coworker)

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lemony.2008
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Only You --The Platters


Only you
can make this world seem right
Only you
can make the darkness bright
Only you and you alone
can thrill me like you do
and fill my heart with love for only you

Only you
can make this change in me
For it's true
you are my destiny
When you hold my hand, I understand
the magic that you do
You're my dream come true
my one and only you, only you

Only you and you alone
can thrill me like you do
and fill my heart with love for only you

Only you
can make this change in me
For it's true
you are my destiny
When you hold my hand, i understand
the magic that you do do
You're my dream come true
my one my one my one and only you


Oh, the irony.

It's only me plus at least 6 ows, and the countless women he checked out.

It should've been "Only you, you, you, you, you, you......and you".


Feel the feelings and drop the story. - Pema Chodron


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jstbreathe
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We made a wedding video and used the following songs:

Love Will Keep Us Together; Captain and Tennille

Save The Best For Last; Vanessa Williams

Fallen; Laura Woods (Pretty Woman)

Love Is All Around; Wet Wet Wet (Four Weddings and A Funeral)

Now it all just seems so pathetic!


The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 18 years
2 sons, 11&15
Trying to R

Posts: 154 | Registered: Sep 2013
Softcentre
39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah, well, ours probably is a big emotionally unavailable red flag that I ignored....

....Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen.

We chose it so that WH wouldn't feel self conscious dancing with me in front of everyone (he's an introvert). Instead we gave our friends a heads up, and they joined us in moshing on the dance floor. My mum was, umm, upset, to say the least.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


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Drowninginitall
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here was ours
"Could I Have This Kiss Forever"
(Enrique Iglesias & Whitney Houston)

Over and over I look in your eyes
You are all I desire
You have captured me
I want to hold you
I want to be close to you
I never want to let go
I wish that this night would never end
I need to know

Could I hold you for a lifetime
Could I look into your eyes
Could i have this night to share this night together
Could I hold you close beside me
Could I hold you for all time
Could I could I have this kiss forever
Could I could I have this kiss forever, forever

Over and over I've dreamed of this night
Now you're here by my side
You are next to me
I want to hold you and touch you and taste you
And make you want no one but me
I wish that this kiss could never end
Oh baby please

Could I hold you for a lifetime
Could I look into your eyes
Could I have this night to share this night together
Could I hold you close beside me
could I hole you for all time
Could I could I have this kiss forever
Could I could I have this kiss forever, forever

I don't want any night to go by
Without you by my side
I just want all my days
Spend being next to you
Lived for just loving you
And baby, oh by the way

Could I hold you for a lifetime
Could I look into your eyes
Could I have this night to share this night together
Could I hold you close beside me
Could I hold you for all time
Could I could I have this kiss forever
Could I could I have this kiss forever, forever


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hobbeskat
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unchained Melody. Been our song since teenagers. Can't listen to it anymore. It came on in a shop and he took my hand. I sat there impassively and he started crying.

Oh, my love, my darling
I've hungered for your touch
A long, lonely time

And time goes by so slowly
And time can do so much
Are you still mine?

I need your love
I need your love
God speed your love to me!

Lonely rivers flow
To the sea, to the sea
To the open arms of the sea

Lonely rivers sigh
"Wait for me, wait for me"
I'll be coming home, wait for me!

Oh, my love, my darling
I've hungered, hungered for your touch
A long, lonely time

And time goes by so slowly
And time can do so much
Are you still mine?

I need your love
I need your love
God speed your love to me


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Flatlined123
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Only One" by James Taylor

You are my only one, you are my only one. Well I'm telling you now, you're my only one.

I've got two long legs like to carry me, two sharp eyes to look for the fight.
Two strong arms to hold on tight, two good friends on my left and right, but only one only one.
You are my only one, you are my only one. Don't be leaving me now, you're my only one.

There's only one road before me, too many turns in the way, thousands of things to do today.
Millions of moments, I must admit, but only one, only one.
You are my only one, you are my only one. Don't be leaving me now, you're my only one.

Taken for granted and pushed aside, all that it wanted was a place to run and hide.
Missing message in a hollow tree, hidden deep inside a memory
and the memory seems like dreams.
Hundreds of hopes in the past, nevertheless it was never the last.
Hold on strong or you fade out fast and only one only one.
You are my only one, you are my only one. Don't be leaving me now, you're my only one.

Seems so sad now. It was so special because we were onlies, but not anymore.

Really sad thing is that H was the one who picked this one out.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

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million tears
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crazy for you by Madonna


2 year LTA-double betrayal, D-day 1-26-2009 and many months of TT. 2 more recent d-days-way overstepped boundaries.

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC.


Posts: 1664 | Registered: Jun 2009
Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't pick it, so I don't remember!!

I *think* it was Elvis' I Cant help falling in love with you...

I was not going to dance at the wedding (It was a conservative reception, heavy hors devours in the church fellowship hall)

But we did have a string quartet, so the best man came up and said, "you guys are going to dance now!" He is a big Elvis fan so I know it was an Elvis song...

Now thinking ... aren't the lyrics something along the lines of only fools fall in love

I think if I were to do a do-over... I'd have the song that goes "It was a teenage wedding and the old folks wished them well..." We were 21 & 23... babies, really!


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