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User Topic: contemplating taking a break from SI
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have not been on this site as much lately because I feel like it's almost making it harder for me to move on...not the site itself, cuz it is a fantastic site and I have learned so much from being on here, and am so grateful to have found it.

But sometimes reading other posts almost makes it harder to move forward cuz relating to them brings me back to when I was in the A....not the wayward thinking,but it reminds me of the shitty things I have done and makes it harder to focus on now.

And I am on the site a lot normally....like multiple times a day. I feel like it's not ok for me to be constantly reading this site....to truly move past the bad choices I made I need to make a clean break.

I don't know if this makes any sense or if anyone else has felt this way, but I just wanted to share my thoughts on it before I disappear.


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
Brandon808
♂ 35619
Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Speaking as a BH I can say I know what you mean. I have been posting a lot lately but there was a period of time when I barely look and even more rarely posted.

Everyone is different. If you find it harder to focus on the now then do what you need to do. As long as it is in support of your healing and leading a open, authentic life then it is very reasonable to do so.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4082 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
SandAway
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, I remember feeling that way.

But now it helps me by keeping it all real. The pain, sadness, betrayal and even the hope.

Its OK to take a break from SI. I think many people do it at some point. You will know when your ready to come back.


fWW
BH Tred
M 16yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people


Posts: 439 | Registered: Dec 2012
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I take breaks when we travel.
I don't have a smart phone, so I can't check it when we're away from my computer. I could use my Bs's phone but I choose not to.

It's nice to take a break sometimes.


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1145 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
20WrongsVs1
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Member # 39000
Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took *two whole weeks* off of SI recently.

It was still here when I came back.


fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

Posts: 1252 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
Trying33
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it's healthy to take breaks, it can get a bit too much sometimes and as I always say in my IC sessions, I need to LIVE my life to allow it to move forward. Sometimes I feel like I'm holding my breath and waiting for changes to just happen.

For me, SI keeps me stimulated and is a go to. It really replaced my AP. A place for me to go to and share my thoughts and feelings and to try to understand wtf happened. My infidelity doesn't feature much in my M as my H has convinced himself it never happened, for me though, I need a lot of support as I feel stuck and frustrated.

I'm now using SI to help me work on my M. How to better communicate and relate. It sometimes get's intense at which point I just log off until a topic I can relate to comes up, where I can contribute and support.

Take a break, but hope to see you back at some point.


Posts: 362 | Registered: Mar 2013
ladycody
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't been here long but at one point had to back off for a bit because I was obsessed with reading. I don't know if it just helped me to know I wasn't alone or what...but anything that is done obsessively can be an issue, I think....so I get it.


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

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