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Okay, so back during the first year post d-day, I decided to get breast implants. My friend had done it earlier that year and looked incredible (she still does). I, of course, took great pains to convince everyone that I was doing it for me, for my own sense of self-image, something I'd always wanted to do, nothing to do with the A, blah blah blah. You can probably guess that with hindsight, I now more than realize it was totally A-related. OW would send taunting emails about how men like T&A so why would my WH want someone scrawny like me, etc.

The surgery wasn't fun, but I healed on schedule with no problems. The Plastic Surgeon put in waaaay bigger implants than I had agreed to, so I've always been kinda peeved about that, but after healing and all, I wasn't about to go back under the knife again and figured I'd get used to them. I went from a B cup to a G

And afterwards, I did enjoy the new clothes, the new curves, I looked pretty hot But I also never felt at all comfortable with it. And pretty shortly after all of that, when the (false) R got more and more strained, I started to regret the money, the physical pain, and I also started to feel very uncomfortable with people knowing and looking at me differently. I felt very self-conscious when I dressed to show the gals off at all, so I started reverting back to big, loose shirts, baggy sweats, trying to cover them up (which looks worse, actually).

I've been thinking for more than a couple years - pretty much since the divorce - that I should just get rid of the damn things. Thanks to some inheritance, I can afford to do it. I asked my PCP during my recent annual exam for a reference and have an appt with that different plastic surgeon in a couple weeks. Provided I get a good vibe from her and like the before and after pics she'll show me and all that, I'm seriously thinking about doing it.

All that to ask if anyone here has gone through this "explant" and been sorry, been thrilled, been relieved? If you don't want to post, please PM me. It seems like a great idea. Just the physical discomfort I still feel from the implants and the ridiculously huge bras I have to wear, I can't believe it wouldn't be a relief to get them out. But I'm trying to take everything into account in deciding what to do. I also don't have to do it immediately, although I'm not getting any younger in terms of healing from surgery, plus I'd rather not wait until I *have* to get them out because of a problem of some kind.

Thoughts?

[This message edited by ISPIFFD at 1:11 PM, February 2nd (Sunday)]

I didn't, but my good friend did. Actually, hers were "naturally a G+ and her ex REFUSED to allow her to have a breast reduction.

As soon as she found out they were in false R…she got those bad boys down to a double D. She still turns heads.

She doesn't regret it for a moment.

If you have to have surgery anyway you might ask for them to be removed and replaced with C or D. Any larger than that and people start getting back problems.

I have had this done. I had implants for over 20 years and I fell and damaged one, so I had to get them out. My surgeon told me he would not do the surgery unless I had new implants put in because it would not look good. I had gained quite a bit of weight over the years and they weren't as perky. So, I had them taken out, had a breast reduction and then had new smaller implants put in. I am VERY happy with the results.

I think you will be too - G's?? I would have sued my surgeon had he made me that big against my wishes. I had told my first surgeon that I just wanted a very full B-cup and he made them a very full C-cup and that pissed me off then.

That doc was a jerk to give you G's. That's really cruel, IMVHO. I'm a DoubleDiva and I hear you about the back pain & inconvenience. I encourage you to modify YOUR body so that it fits what you feel is right for you. I hope you find just the right doctor who will honor your wishes.

I got an augmentation after my break up with LTR xbf (before xwh). I went from a B to a C. Had very small implants inserted. The doctor was reluctant saying I'd regret not going bigger but I knew I wouldn't want too big. I'm very small framed and thin so huge boobs would (to me) look strange on me. I just wanted a bit more to fill things up. When pregnant and the breastfeeding I went up two more cups!! I hated it. Now I'm down to a small D. I still prefer the C but can live with the D's. However I do think it would've been better if I never had done it. So I can understand the regret you're feeling.

I would've been furious if a doctor gave me G's against my wishes. What an asshole!! I completely understand wanting to reduce them. That is bound to give you back issues. Wishing you the best luck with this!

Thanks, everyone! If I do get these puppies out, I won't get any others inserted. I just don't want to deal with it anymore (the extra diagnostic mammograms, the underlying nervousness about rupturing or leaking). While I think these implants are fine and probably as safe as can be, eventually I will have to deal with them anyway since the average life span is about 10 years. Putting in others seems to just put off more surgery for another time. I'm really thinking that out and done is where I'm headed, although I might consider a lift of some sort while the surgeon has me under for the explant. I don't know, I would just sort of like to be done with the whole thing, but that's not necessarily the best approach. I'm curious what this new plastic surgeon will say. I appreciate everyone's input!

Not sure how long you have had them in but the results may not be as you desire if you don't get something else done when they come out. A lift, something? Your surgeon will tell you all about it though. Good luck to you!

Thanks! I do realize that there will be nothing there once the implants come out. I have read that Plastic Surgeons describe what's left as "old, used teabags"...

To answer the question, I've had these things in for just over 5 years now.

But I don't want anymore implants because then I'll be dealing with this in my 60s or 70s and that's just ridiculous.

A lift maybe, but I would rather wait and see before agreeing to that -- it would involve more pain and a much longer healing time.

However, I will see what the new surgeon has to say I just don't want to have implants in my body anymore... No one's going to see these gals again 'cept me and my pets Everyone else will see me with a nice uplifting bra and clothes on over.

[This message edited by ISPIFFD at 4:37 PM, February 7th (Friday)]