DD#1 - Oct 13
How far out were you when the TT ended?
When did you realize the TT had ended?
He said he would give a full confession after saying "there are things about the A you don't know" it crushed me because he had told me a story that I accepted at first. But for 5 weeks the story didn't make sense to me, not only in the content but in his actions.
So after the full confession the TT ended.
Were you able to R or did you D?
We are in R. Sometimes I feel like if he had given me 100% truth on DD#1 I would have left or he would - he was still "in love". He realised over the 5 weeks he had to make a decision He chose me and then told me everything so I could make a decision after he had. Don't get me wrong, those were the worst 5 weeks of my life. Since then we have been able to talk and have only had about 3 major arguments about the A.
Other than working on myself and examining why I held on to the facts for so long, do you have any suggestions?
I think working out the why of the A is essential and this may lead you to work out why you held back with the truth. Like I said, he was still in the fog back then so may the same for you. Things happen on both sides when we're ready.
Say sorry, sorry, sorry, full transparency and also, feel good that you have finally got to the first stage.
"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive" - CS Lewis