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A phoenix will rise from these ashes.
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hopefulmother posted 2/3/2014 13:43 PM
To our newbies:
I know it seems crazy, hopeless, and painful right now.
Hang in there...whether you want to R or move on. It will get easier. After the shock and trauma wear off and you no longer just "feel" so much 24/7 till you are numb from it all....you will awaken.
There will be a moment of clarity (like when you get drunk) where you will say to yourself. I deserve better. I am better than this.
You will no longer grasp desperately to your WS. You will think, "Does this person deserve me?" "Is this WS good enough for me?" "Do I really want to spend the rest of my life building a future with someone this weak and selfish?"
Then they will be on the job interview of their life...proving they are worthy for you.
If you choose to leave. Well, what you left just wasn't worth it anyway.
Your castle is waiting elsewhere, so lift your chin up princess...your tiara is falling.
Many hugs and wishes for you all. Come here often and keep pushing through the ashes.
4everfaithful83 posted 2/3/2014 14:10 PM
WELL SAID!!! :)
THANK YOU!
I'm saving this so I can read it EVERY day!
Hannah25 posted 2/3/2014 14:13 PM
That is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you
hopefulmother posted 2/3/2014 14:37 PM
Thank you 4everfaithful83 (enjoy the new snow) and Hannah25...and you are both very welcome.
headdesk posted 2/3/2014 15:31 PM
Awesome post. I remember distinctly going from 'understanding supportive and calm but totally hurt and resentful wife' to a 'you have GOT to be kidding me, I'll put my boot up your butt wife'.
It was wonderful coming into that power. This marriage was long overdue it and it's change the dynamic of the whole family in a healthier way.
PRNDL posted 2/3/2014 18:40 PM
Thank you do much
iamsoblind42 posted 2/3/2014 21:24 PM
Thank you. My DDay was just a little over 3 weeks ago but already have the date/time this chapter of my life will be over. 4/21/14 10AM
I already know he doesn't deserve me. Never has.
jstbreathe posted 2/3/2014 21:40 PM
Now if I only could find that magic wand! 