would you video it or do it on our bed but he doesn't know or says he didn't think about it.
If you are not married ... lay tracks and get the heck out of Dodge ... he sounds like he may be SA to me ... I'm no expert, but seriously he needs help that you as his SO cannot give him.
[This message edited by norabird at 11:42 PM, February 3rd (Monday)]
This man is not the person you thought he was. He is a cheater, he refuses to discuss it or give you the details, and has done nothing to work on himself.
Yes, his affairs can go underground. There are other ways to cheat, a monthly payphone, different email accounts, calls from his work phone, lunch hours, etc.
Please think long and hard about a future with this man.