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User Topic: Feeling alone
♀ 42022
Member # 42022
Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So it's been a little over 3 weeks since DDay. Filed for separation and got our date/time today... 4/21/14 at 10 AM.

Just feeling like I don't have a single family member or friend that will understand but I know you all will so posting here as I need some support today.

Thanks in advance.

I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 44 (then 42)
WH: 50 (then 48)
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched

Posts: 237 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Colorado
♀ 16394
Member # 16394
Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been reading your posts, you have been so strong. It is okay to feel down since a date has been set. It is okay to mourn your loss of a relationship you thought was more.

We are all here to support you. We will lift you up when you are down. Just reach out to us. Tomorrow will be better.

BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time." Bionical girl

Posts: 3163 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
♀ 24786
Member # 24786
Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow- you are so early on in this whole sorry nightmare.

It can overwhelm you but we are here.

You might not believe this right now but you will start to live again.... I don't know when that will be and won't pacify you with platitudes.

I just wanted you to hear it from someone who has been where you are.

We are here- always.

BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1622 | Registered: Jul 2009
Member # 41986
Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

we are both so new that i dont feel comfortable offering advice. but i do want you to know that i am here and i feel your pain and you have my support!

me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys

Posts: 1811 | Registered: Jan 2014
♀ 41978
Member # 41978
Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{IASB42}} You're not alone. You have all of us and we're here for you always. I hope today finds you in a better place.

EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell

Posts: 124 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
♂ 42012
Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Blind, was thinking about you today. How are you feeling?

"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 4485 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
♀ 40144
Member # 40144
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey there, iamsoblind,

You have been attacking all of this so fast and hard, I'm sure you haven't had much of a chance to really absorb it all.

Even though you know you are pursuing the right course of action for yourself, you will certainly have moments of regret and sadness, confusion and disillusionment, loneliness, all that. It's totally normal. No matter if he devastated you, there is still a history you have together and it's hard to wrap your mind around all of it, given your new reality.

Be gently with yourself. It's okay to be down or sad. You need to grieve what you lost. It's part of the process. Don't beat yourself up for it.

You are doing great. This is an excruciatingly difficult trauma to get through. Be kind to yourself.

How are your DS and DD doing?

Me: BS49+ 😝, Him: WH 51
M 24 years - DD21 DS19 DS16
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, S for 1 year, now Reconciling

Posts: 1482 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
♀ 41522
Member # 41522
Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted to say I understand how you feel. I feel alone in this, just sucks. I'm 2 months into DDAY and each day, I feel a new emotion. Is this really my life? Just wanted to say I have been reading your posts, and you are incredibly strong.

Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞

Update: attempting to reconcile

Posts: 313 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Canada
Topic Posts: 8

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