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I assumed I had a happy married life and was extremely happy to have got a new job in the Middle East In March 2013. My family joined me 3 months after I had shifted locations. 28th Dec 2013 was when I chanced upon an email addressed to my WS on my Tablet from a stranger with usage of abusive language in it. I casually asked my WS who this person was and she replied that it was a friend of a common relative who had sent her a friend request on facebook..She wouldn't elaborate further. That evening back at the hospital where I worked I started reviewing her emails since I had her password. I discovered emails from other males as well. One look at her G'talk conversations confirmed my worst nightmare. My WS had been having an emotional affair with this person, in fact she seemed to be falling at his feet for attention and she had also discussed our lovemaking and which positions gave her the most pleasure. She repeatedly professed her love for him with kisses and " I love you" a number of times. They discussed how best she looked when she dressed and he asked her for photographs kept praising her looks and her assets. The next day I took her phone with me to hospital on the excuse of transferring some photos. I scanned through her photos emails, Viber and Whatsup chat applications. She had deleted most conversations but when I thoroughly scanned through other files on her android phone(an expensive gift from me) it revealed more murky details and affairs with 4-5 more individuals. The worst was an exchange of her **** picture and pictures of these other individuals on her phone. There were audio clips also- all of which she presumed were deleted but were still lurking in other regions of the phone. When I confronted her with this information she initially said this was just friendly talk with friends acquired via facebook. Then I enquired on the photos and the conversations. She did not want to look at any of them and confessed that she did not realize how she ever got into conversations with these individuals. She also says she wasn't thinking at all when she had shared the photos and when she had chatted discussing our intimate details. She had also mentioned to one of them that I was not there to listen to her conversations. I got her parents involved and they confessed that they had suspected she may have been having an affair as she was on the phone for lengthy periods when they had tried calling her and called my phone as well to confirm she wasn't on a conversation with me. When she got to know I had involved her parents, she initially went berserk and tried to smash her head on the floor saying she wanted to die. She sustained a fracture on the outer aspect of her frontal bone- Managed conservatively (I am a doctor). She then broke down and gave me bits and pieces of what had transpired over the past year or so. She did not voluntarily give me any of the information and I had to coax it slowly out of her with the available information I had gathered. She destroyed her expensive smartphone by dunking it in water saying that the phone was the reason why she had got into conversations with these men. In the process any other evidence I may have got as I did not have time to fully scan through the phone was destroyed forever. I confronted each of these individuals over phone as they were all in India and blasted each of them for destroying my family. Some of them admitted it was their mistake, some said they had received positive responses from my WS and that was why they had continued. There were chats which mentioned they considered her as their wife. All this crushed me and initially I also felt like ending my life. Thinking of my children and since I still loved my WS( I still view her as a stranger- split personality, when I think of the manner of how she had chatted with each of those strangers)Its been a month now and she is remorseful and extremely sad at what has happened. I feel like hugging her and being with her most of the time and there has been HB I guess after going through your site coz of our lovemaking becoming almost thrice a day for the whole of last month. I do not have a counselor to approach here in the Middle east. The pain is easing a bit but I am angry at each of those individuals and also the manner my WS initially lied when I confronted her with the initial information I had. I speak to her on this issue almost everyday even though I want to stop rewinding it. She gets hurt each time I ask her for details. She now says she loves me more than when we were married and misses me like a lover each time I go to work. And she keeps repeating that I should continue to love her the way I do currently and should not stop openly showing my affection for her( constant hugs, kisses, tears and love making)-I am not sure how long this can be sustained and whether she will revert to her previous behavior( she has said she does not want a phone again and says without that, she will never ever indulge in this sort of behavior )

I assumed I had a happy married life and was extremely happy to have got a new job in the Middle East In March 2013. My family joined me 3 months after I had shifted locations. 28th Dec 2013 was when I chanced upon an email addressed to my WS on my Tablet from a stranger with usage of abusive language in it. I casually asked my WS who this person was and she replied that it was a friend of a common relative who had sent her a friend request on facebook..She wouldn't elaborate further. That evening back at the hospital where I worked I started reviewing her emails since I had her password. I discovered  emails from other males as well. One look at her G'talk conversations confirmed my worst nightmare. My WS had been having an emotional affair with this person, in fact she seemed to be falling at his feet for attention and  she had also discussed our lovemaking and which positions gave her the most pleasure. She repeatedly professed her love for him with kisses and " I love you" a number of times. They discussed how best she looked when she dressed and he asked her for photographs kept praising her looks and her assets. The next day I took her phone with me to hospital on the excuse of transferring some photos. I scanned through her photos emails, Viber and Whatsup chat applications. She had deleted most conversations but when I thoroughly scanned through other files on her android phone(an expensive gift from me) it revealed more murky details and affairs with 4-5 more individuals. The worst was an exchange of her **** picture and pictures of these other individuals on her phone. There were audio clips also- all of which she presumed were deleted but were still lurking in other regions of the phone. When I confronted her with this information she initially said this was just friendly talk with friends acquired via facebook. Then I enquired on the photos and the conversations. She did not want to look at any of them and confessed that she did not realize how she ever got into conversations with these individuals. She also says she wasn't thinking at all when she had shared the photos and when she had chatted discussing our intimate details. She had also mentioned to one of them that I was not there to listen to her conversations. I got her parents involved and they confessed that they had suspected she may have been having an affair as she was on the phone for lengthy periods when they had tried calling her and called my phone as well to confirm she wasn't on a conversation with me. When she got to know I had involved her parents, she initially went berserk and tried to smash her head on the floor saying she wanted to die. She sustained a fracture on the outer aspect of her frontal bone- Managed conservatively (I am a doctor). She then broke down and gave me bits and pieces of what had transpired over the past year or so. She did not voluntarily give me any of the information and I had to coax it slowly out of her with the available information I had gathered. She destroyed her expensive smartphone by dunking it in water saying that the phone was the reason why she had got into conversations with these men. In the process any other evidence I may have got as I did not have time to fully scan through the phone was destroyed forever. I confronted each of these individuals over phone as they were all in India and blasted each of them for destroying my family. Some of them admitted it was their mistake, some said they had received positive responses from my WS and that was why they had continued. There were chats which mentioned they considered her as their wife. All this crushed me and initially I also felt like ending my life. Thinking of my children and since I still loved my WS( I still view her as a stranger- split personality, when I think of the manner of how she had chatted with each of those strangers)Its been a month now and she is remorseful and extremely sad at what has happened. I feel like hugging her and being with her most of the time and there has been HB I guess after going through your site coz of our lovemaking becoming almost thrice a day for the whole of last month. I do not have a counselor to approach here in the Middle east. The pain is easing a bit but I am angry at each of those individuals and also the manner my WS initially lied when I confronted her with the initial information I had. I speak to her on this issue almost everyday even though I want to stop rewinding it. She gets hurt each time I ask her for details. She now says she loves me more than when we were married and misses me like a lover each time I go to work. And she keeps repeating that I should continue to love her the way I do currently and should not stop openly showing my affection for her( constant hugs, kisses, tears and love making)-I am not sure how long this can be sustained and whether she will revert to her previous behavior( she has said she does not want a phone again and says without that, she will never ever indulge in this sort of behavior )