Winston Churchill stated this after a daring rescue of stranded soldiers on a beach during WWII. They were facing certain death until an unexpected and unpredicted fog rolled in and the normally rough seas were pond-calm....allowing vessels of all kinds (fishing boats and pleasure crafts as well as military boats) to come in and rescue the men.
Yes, he was grateful that these brave mens lives were spared....but it was a reminder that escaping is not the same as winning.
Got me to thinking about what an A is....at the core it is an escape. My wife did not win the love of another man, did not win a chance at feeling something she never thought she could feel. She escaped from herself and her life. It cost her a great deal. She LOST a great deal.
I retreated upon my DD.....retreated into myself, using all the coping skills I had. I LOST a great deal.
Had we D upon our DD we would have lost the war.
Somehow we both found the courage to go back to war and fight for something.
We see know how we should have been fighting much more in our original marriage. How NOT fighting for 15 years was not winning us anything.
We fought again last night....it was a lame 1.5 hour battle.....most of which was a draw....but the last few minutes of it we had some victory.
Wars take courage, retreats do not.
I regularly pray for courage.
I pray this prayer for myself, my wife, and for all affected by adultery.
God be with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 6:43 AM, February 4th (Tuesday)]