me - bh
im not sure if this falls into your list under verify but
- complete and utter transparency on all aspects of life, including daily life (where going, who meets, what context, etc) and all forms of electronic media (phone, emails, etc)
- an agreement on what constitutes proper and healthy boundaries and agreement on what the consequences are for violating those boundaries (divorce).
- removing all toxic people from our lives who either supported, condoned, permitted, or encouraged her affairs. removing everyone who has heard so much crap about me (the bs) that they view our marriage in a very skewed way. removing everyone that isnt a friend of our marriage.
- agreement that any facts that subsequently come to light later that substantially contradict her stories (she used TT) will result in a divorce. agreement to a polygraph at a later point to verify her answers.
- IC counseling for us both. MC for us both.
those were some of my "needs".
her - lara01
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys