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Allornothing posted 2/5/2014 01:02 AM

I would appreciate some solid advice on what to do when the OW will not leave us alone. She is (unfortunately) our next door neighbour, and a former close friend. Since dday (sept 2013), My WS and I have been undergoing IC and MC, and things are up and down, but moving along.
The biggest issue at the moment is that this person will not leave us be. She stands on her driveway yelling insults at me (never WS), hoses the colourbond fence that divides our properties when she knows I will be sleeping (I'm a shift-worker) and all of a sudden her pets keep escaping into our yard and she enters our property to retrieve them, and refuses to leave when asked. The less we react, the worse she gets...
I am not interested in playing stupid games with this woman, I'm busy working on healing.
I just don't know what to do about it, and how to deal with the resentment I feel towards WH when she carries on like this. I would appreciate any and all help with this issue.

Brandon808 posted 2/5/2014 01:14 AM

Keep a VAR on you next time she talks to you like that.
Hire a lawyer to send a cease-and-desist. Look into filing harassment/stalking charges.

itainteasy posted 2/5/2014 07:47 AM

Can you get a restraining order? Call the police when she's on your property and won't leave.

Fuck that bitch.

Is moving an option for you? Because that bitch will NEVER move, not while she can make life hard for you where she is.

LA44 posted 2/5/2014 08:01 AM

Can your H approach her directly and calmly say that given the hurt and damage already caused towards you, any words, any meandering onto your property, any unnecessary noise will no longer be tolerated and will be dealt with by the authorities. Make sure the whole ordeal is being recorded bc she will start screaming at that point.

She sounds quite "off" too so I would be apt to move - find fresher air in another neighbourhood!

LA44 posted 2/5/2014 08:01 AM

Can your H approach her directly and calmly say that given the hurt and damage already caused towards you, any words, any meandering onto your property, any unnecessary noise will no longer be tolerated and will be dealt with by the authorities. Make sure the whole ordeal is being recorded bc she will start screaming at that point.

She sounds quite "off" too so I would be apt to move - find fresher air in another neighbourhood!

steadfast1973 posted 2/5/2014 08:46 AM

How are she and her pets getting in your yard? Put locks on the gates, if you have them.

Chefj9 posted 2/5/2014 08:52 AM

Get a restraining order, file a complaint with the HOA if you have one and lock your gates.

Allornothing posted 2/5/2014 17:47 PM

Thank you all for the advice, it is much appreciated. You are all correct in stating that there is something "off" about her. We are currently completing a full renovation, and will be putting the home on the market.
I'm so glad I found this site, there are many out there that are all about bitterness and put-downs, but this site, and the people who post, are more about sensible help and support. Again, thank you.

deena04 posted 2/5/2014 18:08 PM

How about a no trespassing sign facing her direction and if it persists, a cop to remind her of that. I know it could make it worse, but it's already bad it seems.

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