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Prayingforhope posted 2/5/2014 15:52 PM

I just increased my IC sessions to 3 times a week and I'm realizing there is a fine line between "feeling the pain" and falling into overt depression.

This week I broke down in 2 of the 3 sessions, which from a therapeutic POV apparently is progress but from my POV it just feels horrible. If I understand the psychology of it, we've started pulling out emotional slivers from my brain and over time this can create benefits.

Based on what's going on my therapist wants me to increase to 4 sessions a week until we work through the current issues. And the whole time I'm doing this I keep hearing my marriage counselor (diff therapist) in the back of my head telling me she thinks I need to be committed. She brought this up a couple of different times in our MC sessions and was strongly suggesting a full time treatment facility to help with depression.

So questions:

Anyone ever done an in-patient treatment facility for depression? Suggestions of where I should look for one if this is a path I need to take?

Second, these are early days for dealing with my own trauma from my LTA, but is 4X IC sessions a week a lot? too little? thoughts?

Jrazz posted 2/5/2014 19:06 PM

We have a couple members who have just recently checked in to treatment centers for depression and they are giving rave reviews.

Is your IC able to refer you to such a place? Contacting your insurance carrier about this might also be a good place to look.

I have heard nothing but good things from getting intensive help like this, especially when the depression starts to spiral out of control. I would highly encourage you to do this if you are able. Hopefully members with more specific resources will come along.

sinsof thefather posted 2/6/2014 02:47 AM

Prayingforhope, I have no experience whatsoever in inpatient facility, but just posting as someone who has been following your threads, I think you need a second independent professional opinion.

Four very emotionally intensive counseling sessions a week added to (a possible) severe depression already is a treatment that I think you need to have as much support in place for as possible before you begin.

If my memory serves correctly you are living alone while renting a room in a non-family members house. You are simultaneously in the process of resigning your job, which I presume means you have a lot of independent work stresses right now too, and you say your marriage guidance counselor 'strongly suggested' that she feels you need to be committed to a specialist facility for the treatment of your depression. For those reasons, I think you do need another professional opinion as to what is the best course for you going forward. The two counselors you see at present disagree on what is the best course for you. I think I'd you need to get another opinion pfh.

I'm not saying you don't need the extra counseling (I think you probably do need it) just that you need to explore all the options to find out what is going to be the safest and most productive way for you to get it. Could you speak to your GP to get started on the second opinion?

[This message edited by sinsof thefather at 3:16 AM, February 6th (Thursday)]

Prayingforhope posted 2/6/2014 03:38 AM

Thanks Sins, appreciate your input and yes, you have perfectly summarized my current life situation.

When I read it the way you summarize it, I sortof step back and say "gee, there is a LOT going on right now (and not much of it is positive)..."

You're spot on about the differing opinions between MC and IC. The good news is the MC has openly said that all decisions are deferred to my IC therapist. MC is such a different beast, that the therapist is smart enough to know she only sees the surface of my personal situation.

I'm going to continue my current course of action - it does help, of that I am certain - and take a pulse check in a few weeks. As in all these things it seems time will tell whether I fall apart entirely or start to feel better.

Thanks again for caring enough to comment.

Kelany posted 2/6/2014 07:38 AM

http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=521525

I was one of the ones who recently voluntarily went to a psych hospital for 6 days after a breakdown basically.

Anyway, it was the best thing I could have done. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, put on some additional meds, saw a Dr. Daily. Group therapy, activity therapy, I got a lot out of it.

I'm continuing with out patient treatment.