With my STBXH.
I take step backwards when he starts playing games and I allow it to happen, or when I give him any part of my attention at all.
Even after just a few days of zero contact with him, I already feel good again. Like I can take a deep breath.
Now if only I lived more than 6 hours away from this place, I would feel even better. Hate that all my family is here, otherwise I wouldn't have second thoughts about moving.
It just sucks that one has to hear things through the grapevine, or accidentally get a stupid text message meant for OW, that pours salt in one's wounds...and forces those backward steps.
Wish I could just beam him and OW to another planet.