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I will never, ever underestimate the value of NC

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Spelljean posted 2/5/2014 18:39 PM

With my STBXH.

I take step backwards when he starts playing games and I allow it to happen, or when I give him any part of my attention at all.

Even after just a few days of zero contact with him, I already feel good again. Like I can take a deep breath.

Now if only I lived more than 6 hours away from this place, I would feel even better. Hate that all my family is here, otherwise I wouldn't have second thoughts about moving.

It just sucks that one has to hear things through the grapevine, or accidentally get a stupid text message meant for OW, that pours salt in one's wounds...and forces those backward steps.

Wish I could just beam him and OW to another planet.

nowiknow23 posted 2/5/2014 18:43 PM

((((Spelljean))))

Even after just a few days of zero contact with him, I already feel good again. Like I can take a deep breath.
Don't let yourself forget that, honey.

Rebreather posted 2/5/2014 18:49 PM

accidentally get a stupid text message meant for OW,

I bet you dollars to donuts that shit isn't on accident.

Shields up!!

nekorb posted 2/5/2014 18:52 PM

WH is still living here and we haven't even really begun to separate.

I'm dreading NC. I know I will have to do it for my own sanity. But at the same time, he has been such a huge part of my life and despite his horrible behavior, I know I'm going to miss him terribly.

Keep reminding yourself of how good it feels!

Spelljean posted 2/5/2014 21:47 PM

I think NC is something many feel very painful in the beginning. And often it fails miserably, and after much trial and error and multiple ddays...it see,s to be the one thing left that saves your sanity and allows you to decompress.

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