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Erm . . . . no thanks. There's some stuff I'd rather not be re-living, if it's all the same to you.

Yeah I saw that and wondered if all the pictures I deleted and info I removed would still be there. Figured I wouldn't take the chance and just left it alone. I removed and deleted that stuff with quickness and purpose as I systematically removed the STBXWW from my life after the decision to D. It would suck to see that stuff scrolling across the screen again. I won't even click on friends movies just in case she was tagged in stuff on their movies.

Agreed! I actually made another fb page after dday and only my closest friends and family have access to it. I just can't look at what happened there during 2013 without being smacked in the face that my "reality" was based on a lie.

You know, after I posted this, I actually went and looked at mine. For whatever reason, there were NO pictures posted from any of the "bad" times. It was mostly just pictures of my daughter (I'm a total facebook STFU Mom). It was nice. I didn't share it though, I figure I flood my friends with enough Baby Green pics anyway.

It was hard enough when they had "a year in pictures" or something like that at the end of 2013. Thank God, OW and none of her family were in the pictures, but they were at several places when I had taken the pictures of my kids. (If that makes sense.) There is no way, I am doing my Facebook movie.

A friend of mine posted how he finds it hilarious to watch all te videos and see the most liked posts were all about engagements or weddings and how all of them are now divorced. I commented that my most liked post was when I had finally hit the 50 pounds lost mark and asked if anyone wanted to go to Chipotle. My brother then commented that his most liked picture was a canned whole chicken. I did mine because I'm a glutton for punishment I guess. One picture it chose was the first ultrasound of DD#2. That one hurt a bit after this second miscarriage. But nothing too bad.

JG, I had the same thing. I anxiously previewed the movie, waiting to see STBXH or XBFF, but they never showed (phew). My favorite post was my boys raving about their new schools in our post d-day move. So it turned out to be an ode to our new lives.

I did mine... couldn't help seeing the pics of May 2012 while the A was active. Looked at myself and felt sorry for the poor bastards (me). But hey, life goes on. I'm a stronger person now. The song is a tear jerker though. Well maybe because I'm post A and am still fragile.

I wish I hadn't looked at mine. Trigger city. For both ddays.

First photo was from a picture of my kids taken in 2008 during a picture perfect family vacation with WH#1. We returned home talking about how we had never been happier. He slept with the MOW for the first time the next day.

All the rest were of WH#2, our wedding and our kids. Shiny happy faces. I showed it to WH#2 and he welled up.

Mine was beautiful. Made me cry to see the wonderful moments that occurred while I was in the middle of madness & despair.

Mine had pictures of wine, and pictures of my cats. LOL. Needless to say, I did not share it.

It was crazy to see how much my kids have grown and changed, and there were no triggers in mine.
(And yes I still trigger rarely at 5 yrs out)

It made me happy to a couple pics of furbabies that have crossed the rainbow bridge as well.

Luckily (?) FWH's affair was before I joined FB so all my stuff is in recovery. But mine was kind of lame! I was sadz.

I actually enjoyed mine. I have been on FB for over 6 years and the vast majority was my girls or actually about me. My most liked post were 2 major life changing moments for me, both positive.... The first was my announcement of getting accepted to culinary school and the other was when I was chosen as a judge for a world food championship... Very little of H, since he was never here. The pictures that included him were recent so it didn't trigger me thank goodness. My husband didn't get to make his since his he deleted his old FB account and created a new one with a different name. His is just a few months old and has no real history.

If he had been on his old account, I'm sure it would be have been a HUGE trigger. Glad he killed that account.

Mine was brutal.

sorry oblique

I have not yet. One question. How do you remove pics that have you tagged? There are some of OW and H at functions that were put up by someone else. I cannot get those to permanently go away.

Mine was okay, I had a lot of pictures of the boys and posts of hospital updates for my sickie. My SIL's was a little sad, it had a lot of my precious nephew (good!) but it also showed the post announcing the impending birth of baby 2 in January 2014. That baby was lost in the first trimester.

I have not yet. One question. How do you remove pics that have you tagged? There are some of OW and H at functions that were put up by someone else. I cannot get those to permanently go away.

YOU have no control over the tagging but your husband can un-tag himself by going to the photo. Only OW and whomever posted the original pic can un-tag her.

But if you both block her then you won't be able to see any pic she's tagged in.

I have avoided this like crazy. Having to go through pictures to find some for DD's family celebration project was enough torture for me.