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Williesmom posted 2/6/2014 10:28 AM

The backstory is that I slept with this guy for a year. Looking back, it was apparently nothing more than a fuckbuddy situation.

He rolled out of my bed on December 14th, gave me a kiss, and went to work. I have heard nothing from him since, even though I texted him a few times.

Last night, at midnight, I received the following text:

I apologize for shutting you out. Holidays and birthday are too much. I should have mentioned but I did not. Also please find it to forgive me - I didn't want to but couldn't get it together.

Is this text a poor try for booty?

ajsmom posted 2/6/2014 10:34 AM

Sounds like a 12-Step Program apology to me.

NEXT! (right after crickets)

AJ's MOM

risingfromashes posted 2/6/2014 10:43 AM

Imo yes

lostandhopless posted 2/6/2014 11:09 AM

Yep, You might want to borrow some "Super cricket powers".

shiloe posted 2/6/2014 11:11 AM

Crickets or

Sorry, who is this?

cayc posted 2/6/2014 11:36 AM

Wow.

Yeah crickets. Ignoring someone is the most cutting thing you can do.

Sparkles posted 2/6/2014 11:40 AM

I guess its nice that he apologized, but... it doesn't sound/feel sincere to me. It's all about him, baby! Maybe AJsmom is correct? Or its a poor try for booty.

nutmegkitty posted 2/6/2014 12:20 PM

I don't know how I would take that. I guess I would at least be glad he apologized. I would have been so unbelievable hurt by his diappearance that I don't know that, if he is even sincere, I could accept his apology. I think the damage would be done. I mean, a YEAR together. I know you said this in my poofer post, but really, WHO DOES THAT??

Williesmom posted 2/6/2014 12:21 PM

I don't think its a 12 step thing. He is a diabetic, so he doesn't drink.

However, he is a counselor IRL, so he knows the correct process for doing the right thing to people that you've wronged.

I still vote for late night booty.

She11ybeanz posted 2/6/2014 12:42 PM

NEXT!!! I don't think so dude!!! This booty ain't for sale!

Rainbows posted 2/6/2014 12:57 PM

At that time and out of the blue, it most likely was an attempt for some booty or sexy times talk.

I think if you enjoyed the booty and are able to take the situation as that, then why not.

If you are likely to get attached, then I'd avoid because he seems to have some issues and proceed with caution flags. He's already shown you some things by his behavior so be protective of your emotions.

You're driving the bus on this one. Once you decide what you want, let him know it's your rules.

cmego posted 2/6/2014 14:04 PM

OK..I'm in the minority here…

But, I would probably tell him how you feel, "Your behavior hurt me" and see how he responds. I don't mind giving a second chance to someone who is trying to figure their shit out…but with the caveat that I'm on "full alert" to see if the behavior has actually changed.

I've not been perfect when trying to date either… just food for thought. Do what feels right for you.

FaithFool posted 2/6/2014 14:14 PM

I would give him back exactly what he gave you for the last couple of months... Fair is fair.

Williesmom posted 2/6/2014 14:33 PM

It's been almost 8 weeks. What I really want to do is sleep with him and THEN punch him in the nuts.

nutmegkitty posted 2/6/2014 14:37 PM

What I really want to do is sleep with him and THEN punch him in the nuts.

LMAO!!!

You would be within your rights to do so! lol

thyme2go posted 2/6/2014 15:29 PM

Do you like him?

Williesmom posted 2/6/2014 15:33 PM

I liked him a lot. His poofing hurt me.

I don't want to set myself up to get hurt again, but I can't shield my heart forever.

GabyBaby posted 2/6/2014 15:37 PM

A text at midnight?
Smacks of booty call to me.

NEXT!!! (And crickets...after you nut punch him).

Tripletrouble posted 2/6/2014 15:52 PM

Two thoughts here:
1. The apology was not poetic but it is an apology. I have done some things in my life I needed to apologize for later - not to clear my conscience but because it's the right thing to do. There are some people that owe me some big fat apologies that I will never get. So I think it's ok that he did.
2. The timing made me laugh - my first thought was not booty call but...ambien. Did he ever take sleeping pills that you know of? Maybe he was just sleepless and wanted to set things right.
I think whatever suits your own head and heart here is right. If you want to ignore, or tell him straight up how hurtful it was, or throw one to yourself for the road and then poof yourself, these are all viable options.

movingforward13 posted 2/6/2014 16:33 PM

Sounds like to me he was dealing with someone else and it didn't work out... 8 weeks is a good amount of time for infatuation to break apart. Please don't believe he was alone----

As the saying goes, "Please believe that when your side of the conversation is getting shorter, it is getting longer for someone else."

If I were you, I would crickets.... He doesn't deserve your time--- you don't deserve his shit.