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User Topic: I hate this...HB issue
ladycody
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So...my WH swears that I am who he wants to be with...that he''s always loved me and is an idiot...that he is stressed about needing to find a job...that he feels like a shit and not sexy or deserving...that I turn him on but that he just feels like he doesnt even deserve to approach me romantically.........even though I told him that right now I need and want him to need and want me. (yeah...HB but one-sided apparently...which makes me feel even more pathetic than this whole episode does in the first place.) I''m not letting him know that I crave contact at this point...but I do...and I think I''ve made it clear that I need it from him but still am not getting it. And it PISSES ME OFF that he''s been told what I need and isn''t making a point of meeting that need.
K...I feel better (not really)

[This message edited by ladycody at 8:00 PM, February 6th, 2014 (Thursday)]


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

Posts: 130 | Registered: Nov 2013
Justgreatnews
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm. He needs a job? He cheats on you?

Obviously I don't know a whole lot about your situation, but those couple of factors are pretty unnerving.

Real men provide, protect and are faithful.


Posts: 261 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
ladycody
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Job loss was a delayed result of A. He has been actively looking since the minute he was let go...non-stop....so has been on top of THAT aspect of working at keeping us alive.

[This message edited by ladycody at 8:33 PM, February 6th, 2014 (Thursday)]


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

Posts: 130 | Registered: Nov 2013
ladycody
♀ 41401
Member # 41401
Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And who here has a spouse that hasn't cheated on them? (confused)


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

Posts: 130 | Registered: Nov 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Communicate Communicate Communicate

A couple weeks after Dday as we were going to bed I laied out all my wants and needs physically. It was the conversation that really started breaking down the walls between us.

My esteem was so destroyed I figured I had nothing left to lose. Plus I figured if she was going to let someone else have some I was sure as hell going to get mine.

Showing my own vulnerability helped her become more vulnerable too.


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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