Unagie - Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.
Sometimes the people that hurt us the worst aren't our families, friends or strangers. More often than not, our biggest enemy is the person staring at us in the morning mirror. Ourselves.
Self-reflection can be a great learning tool but it can also lead to a endless round of self-blame and self-recrimination. Is it really healthy if you find yourself indulging in a cycle of should’ve known, should’ve acted differently, or should’ve been an ideal person?
I think at times as we see the damage in our BS's eyes, its too easy to create something inside us that says our guilt, shame and self-hatred has to be exponentially greater than that pain and in the days and weeks that follow, we often subconsciously turn that feeling into reality by focusing on regret.
You know that the "should have, could have" cycle will never take back the mistakes we made. Intellectually, I know you know that but I think at times, your heart still doesn't accept that. Unagie, you know that our memories are imperfect and that until the day they come up with some way of digitizing our heads, we just have to live with the fact that our memories are edited by fear and other negative emotions.
You are not the memory of a broken person, you have moved onward and are now a much stronger, confident woman. Rejoice in that accomplishment instead of focusing on the memory of the past.
Edited for spelling mistakes, again! LOL
[This message edited by HUFI-PUFI at 2:06 PM, February 7th (Friday)]