2 ¾ yrs out, WH has been back home for 2 ¼ years, & R has been going better and better.
I do believe that WH’s A is over, even tho WH still works in the same building as OW.
He says that she disgusts him now.
I have even stopped checking. I want to trust him.
Months go by now & I don't even bring the A up
(even tho I still think about it every day). I am trying to focus on building our new marriage.
Yesterday , in the course of a discussion about some other developments at WH’s job (not re: WH's A, but re: OW's latest status),
& AFTER I ASKED HIM if there is anything else he hasn’t told me,
WH disclosed that recently
some coworkers asked WH’s supervisor if WH & OW were moved to separate floors because they had an A. The supervisor, who is WH's friend & confidant, quickly covered for WH, giving another reason which makes sense & should dispel any suspicions.
But, that means that WH’s reputation is still at stake & still in question due to his A.
WH has known this info for a couple of months, & decided that I didn’t need to know.
Last night he said that he “guesses that he repressed it”. He said that it only indirectly affects me.
I replied that it does affect me. I have to socialize with these people.
I feel humiliated by WH's A.
Of course, my question now is “What else hasn’t he told me?”
It doesn't take much for me to get suspicious & go back into hyper alert/ uber private eye mode.
My issue is that why isn’t WH forthcoming about everything now? Are we partners or not?
Maybe I am making a big deal about nothing.