Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise by Jane Middelton-Moz
Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
Guilt is a very common response for the WS to experience. At its worst, it leads to the shame spiral, at its best, it can prompt us to develop better behaviors. Dealing with it requires a few steps including acknowledging, acceptance, creating change, forgiveness etc.
IMHO, the key to dealing with guilt/shame is to acknowledge your mistake, accept your role in this issue and understand that it occurred because you were only human. Don’t engage in days, weeks or months of self-blame. Indulging in guilt happens when you focus on the should’ve known, should’ve acted differently, or should’ve been an ideal person. Learn to accept that you’re not perfect but neither is anyone else. Accept the reality that while you may have made mistakes, you are not a mistake in Gods eyes.
Edited for spelling & typos
[This message edited by HUFI-PUFI at 1:41 PM, February 7th (Friday)]