I have been thinking alot about my empathy for my fWH. When I think he was selfish, enjoyed his 3 year stint with OW, I have no empathy for him. I feel stuck in both R and healing as a result.
I know the underlying reasons he had an A, and he is remorseful and doing everything he can to be a good H. When I am able to see his brokenness, I feel more able to see his humanness and have empathy for the choice he made. But I don't stay in this place with empathy very long. Perhaps it is my sense of "fairness" that is keeping me stuck. NOthing about an A is fair.
Does anyone else have difficulty finding empathy or feel stuck?