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hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 2:28 AM on Saturday, February 8th, 2014
So I have a date on Valentine's day... but it's not a valentine's day date. I had coffee with a guy from Match a couple of weeks ago. We both have been travelling for business. He gets back in town Thursday. Here was our convo:
Him - "You want to get together Thursday?"
Me - "I can't, I have a poker game. How about Saturday?"
Him - "I have a BBQ on Saturday... Umm... would it be too weird if we did it on Friday?"
We were both trying to avoid Friday because we're certainly not "Valentines." We decided to hit a Happy Hour for a couple of drinks and some appetizers, as we didn't want a restaurant on V-Day.
However, we're both like "Right, I'm not forcing a V-Day date." "Me neither, sorry. I want to hang out and this is the soonest we both can."
Also I historically have terrible V-Days... hope this changes it.
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 1:06 PM on Saturday, February 8th, 2014
That's so funny! I trigger over v day and I wondered how a conversation like that might go. Sounds like you both handled it well.
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FWH 48
D-day 9/07
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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:12 PM on Saturday, February 8th, 2014
I hope it's a good date. 
In the spirit of it not being a v-day date, I could recommend not focusing on this:
Also I historically have terrible V-Days... hope this changes it.
as it's an awful lot of pressure for a first date.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
I.will.survive ( member #34677) posted at 2:12 PM on Saturday, February 8th, 2014
Oh I think that's awesome you're willing to go out on Valentine's day! Maybe it hints that you both don't take everything too seriously. Could be fun!
I filed for divorce last Valentine's day. 
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healingtree ( member #15467) posted at 3:39 PM on Saturday, February 8th, 2014
Valentines Day....
Just remind yourselves it is Friday, the day between Thursday and Saturday. And it is good that you are both busy, and also making time to meet.
Secretly, though, are you wishing he would bring you a flower or something?
hmmm....
FBS 1st D-day 7-11-07, 2nd DDay Post-Breakup in 8-12, since then, setting my own course
HIM - Doesn't Matter Anymore
The only thing we can change about the past is how we look at it.
hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 8:08 PM on Saturday, February 8th, 2014
@Amazonia - it's not a first date, it's a second date.
@healing - no.
ETA: My bad V-Days generally have nothing to do with who I'm dating, it tends to be stuff like my car will break down or my favorite shoes will lose a heel, that kind of thing.
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Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014
lot of pressure for a second date too 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 9:40 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 2:49 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Valentine's day was only maybe my third or 4th date with my SO.
12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.
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