I feel like my husband is just meeting me after 15 years together. I feel like a highschool girl in love, and I have never, NEVER, felt loved the way I do by my H right now.
Thanks for sharing, it is profoundly affecting to hear from WSs brave enough to post outside of the 'wayward side'. Your words have lifted and encouraged me, and I am grateful for that today in this amazing world, with my amazing family and amazing me.
My AP and I maintained a fiction of a "couple's friendship" with my wife while we had an on-again/off-again 4-year affair. I betrayed my wife more profoundly, but the AP also did.
The pain, abuse and betrayal that come from an affair when the AP pretends to also be a friend of the BS is horrific.
I hope your wife finds her way through this. Your dday was less than a year ago and although you make your post sound as though you are well on your way into R I am sure your wife is still hurting beyond belief. I wish her strength and healing.
I hope you are able to continue with your healing as well. It is a long road, but so worth the journey.
[This message edited by karmahappens at 4:07 PM, February 9th (Sunday)]
You have a PM.
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
What else is there to do?
Really, just give it time.
I was just editing my post when you posted, I removed a line I thought sounded snarky but it was not my intent.
I give any person credit when they are able to look inside fix their broken.
One thing that stands out to me, and I see it a lot with WS's, is the WS feels better about their healing, their marriage and their new path while the BS is still stuck in a world of hurt.The WS that gets it finds a lot of good in their new journey and aha moments. It isn't simultaneous, IMO. I don't know if that makes sense.
All you can do it continue, and try to make it better...every.single.day.
[This message edited by karmahappens at 4:16 PM, February 9th (Sunday)]
Life is not measured by the breaths we take
but by the moments that take our breath away.