I know it comes down to self esteem and I do have a decent amount of it especially after everything I've been through but I guess I'm still at the point where I don't feel worthy of someone wanting me as a damaged person. My brother even said to me quit trying to make the decisions for the guy let them make their own.
Okay, I guess that was a vent but any comments are welcomed.
My God, I'm 47 with thinning salt-n-pepper hair, never had what I consider a successful career, I'm divorced... Believe me, if I can date, and actually have been in a nice relationship for the last 7 months, ANYONE can, including you!
Please be easy on yourself and BELIEVE you have great value; because you do! Now get out there and let the magic happen.
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
Anyways, I am trying OLD again but so far in two months not one good prospect. And I live in a crappy little 800 person village so its not like there are many available fellas around here. The ones that are seem to have FWB relationships with my friends. Not even kidding I just had what I thought was an eliglible fella hittong on me but I am friends with his female roomie and I know they are FWB. That is just too much for me to deal with.
My god maybe I am just destined to be single forever?? Plus its damned hard starting over at 40 years old. Dating in the 20's was so much easier when everyone else was single too....
It almost seems like too much trouble to bother with trying to date but at the same time I would like companionship in my life.
"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"
Focus on your life and building. The right person will see you and if anything respect how you have built your new life.
Don't worry about them- they are an adult. You worry a out your core so you don't end up with someone who can sniff your vulnerability and lack of worth and take advantage.
After what we have all been through I believe we are strong and it is a matter of changing our perception. I don't know but I wouldn't guess the majority of people chose to land here.
BUT we can choose to move on and be confident in who we are or use to be had we continued on that path.
***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Would you want to date a guy who is divorced? Would you consider him damaged goods? Do you want to date guys that are 24-26? Does that age difference hold any appeal or even register as an issue? Just because they are interested it doesn’t mean you have to be. Do you want to date a guy who is still establishing his career?
The only concern that you can even do anything about is your career. If that is something that you feel is holding you back then make that a priority and put dating on the back burner until you get to where you want to be professionally. I’ve been on both sides, establishing my own career while in a relationship and waiting for someone else to find their path. It is challenging both ways and difficult to keep the relationship out of the equation.