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User Topic: (tmi) so I was referred to a sex therapist
heartbroken0903
♀ 27879
Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...by (TMI) my ob/gyn at my annual appt. today. I explained my concerns and that was her suggestion.

Has anyone else ever seen one?


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


Posts: 2316 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
notquiteoverit
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't, but considered it. It can't hurt to go and see for yourself if this is something you want to do.


Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 580 | Registered: Jul 2011
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. Was just like regular counseling except she had extra training in the area of sexual concerns.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
heartbroken0903
♀ 27879
Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the replies. This may be a dumb question (my doc seemed to think it was ) but...would it be ridiculous to go by myself, without XH? He's not the one with the problem.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


Posts: 2316 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
Sammy2013
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Member # 41040
Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS here, no stop sign so I hope you don't mind....

WH went to his first sex therapist appointment last week. He went by himself (and not a stupid question). She wants to work with him for a while and said at some point she will want me to go with him, but she wouldn't be MY therapist or OUR therapist. We have a MC (same office) for that. And I wouldn't go which him every week, just as needed for him. If that makes sense? In my case, you are correct in that it is my WH problem. Just like my problems are mine and I see an IC for them.


WH -37; BS (me) 38
Married 13 years, 3 kiddos
First DDay 9/13. 3 more since then (trickle truth sucks). 6 years of Prostitutes, 2 affairs in 2013, SA diagnosis now with 1 relapse so far (massage parlor with happy ending 2/14).
Waiting, observing,

Posts: 213 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southeast United States
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So much about sex dysfunction is really about communication and / or repressed childhood problems (I.e. Parental relationships/bonding, anger). And so are the treatments - talk therapy, gazing into your partner's eyes for long periods of time, touching without the expectation of sex, massage...

Our MC has special training in sex dysfunction and internet addictions. She was the one who first identified that dh has SA. Sawh says of the three therapists he sees (psychiatrist,
c s at and mc) MC has been most helpful.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
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