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Darkness Falls (original poster member #27879) posted at 11:16 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
...by (TMI) my ob/gyn at my annual appt. today. I explained my concerns and that was her suggestion.
Has anyone else ever seen one?
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
notquiteoverit ( member #32919) posted at 12:18 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
I haven't, but considered it. It can't hurt to go and see for yourself if this is something you want to do.
Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 6:33 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Yes. Was just like regular counseling except she had extra training in the area of sexual concerns.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Darkness Falls (original poster member #27879) posted at 4:31 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Thanks for the replies. This may be a dumb question (my doc seemed to think it was 
) but...would it be ridiculous to go by myself, without XH? He's not the one with the problem.
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
Sammy2013 ( member #41040) posted at 5:10 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
BS here, no stop sign so I hope you don't mind....
WH went to his first sex therapist appointment last week. He went by himself (and not a stupid question). She wants to work with him for a while and said at some point she will want me to go with him, but she wouldn't be MY therapist or OUR therapist. We have a MC (same office) for that. And I wouldn't go which him every week, just as needed for him. If that makes sense? In my case, you are correct in that it is my WH problem. Just like my problems are mine and I see an IC for them.
WH -42;BS (me) 43
Married 17 years, 3 kiddos
First DDay 9/13. TT and 3 more DDays in the 6 months to follow. Reconciled in year 4 of the 2-5 year range.
womaninflux ( member #39667) posted at 12:25 AM on Sunday, February 16th, 2014
So much about sex dysfunction is really about communication and / or repressed childhood problems (I.e. Parental relationships/bonding, anger). And so are the treatments - talk therapy, gazing into your partner's eyes for long periods of time, touching without the expectation of sex, massage...
Our MC has special training in sex dysfunction and internet addictions. She was the one who first identified that dh has SA. Sawh says of the three therapists he sees (psychiatrist,
c s at and mc) MC has been most helpful.
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
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