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PhoenixRising88 (original poster member #35214) posted at 2:23 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Could've knocked my ass over a little while ago... heard from Jay... He remembered my divorce hearing was scheduled today and was checking to see how it went.
He messaged me. Apologized for being a dink and going radio dark on me. I considered not answering for a moment and then decided to take the high road and at least hear what he had to say about WTH happened.
So he filled me in, and my gut was right. He's been getting his kids settled, but yes, he and Ex are talking off and on about getting back together. As he put it 'there's been so much shit that's gone on there that I'm not about to just go right back'. And I told him, as his friend, that yeah he needs to consider his kids, but also that he needs to do what is best and healthiest for him, both short term AND long term. Then I said that while he and I will always be friends, regarding any sort of anything other than friends between us? That ship has sailed. True, he didn't ask me for a second chance on that front. And I didn't offer one, and he now knows that I won't ever offer one.
I have my friend back. I'm good with that.
Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
Chippednotbroken ( member #40170) posted at 2:38 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
PhoenixRising88 (original poster member #35214) posted at 3:12 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
@ Chipped - OMG YEA Divorce final!!
Got to court 1/2 hour early; as it turns out my case was first on the docket anyway. It literally took all of 10 minutes and it was done.
Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 3:33 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
So happy for you PhoenixRising 
And it sounds like you're handling the poofer situation well.
It's all up from here!!!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
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