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User Topic: Valentines
♀ 36164
Member # 36164
Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Valentines sucks, I use to dream of having a bf/husband to spoil me on v day, and now for the past 3 years I despise it. I've tried in the past to get a card and something small while I get the kids things, but usually break down posting on here because they don't make v-day cards for wh's, but this year I'm not doing anything. And it feels good, I'll let the kids pick out a box of candy or something, but I'm tired of trying and feeling fake.

This year I'm spending v-day with my babies, they don't have school, and it's the first day of girl scout cookie booth sales. So me and my daughter will do our first sale late morning, then me and my babies will have our traditional heart shaped pizza lunch, and of course chocolate, then me and my daughter have another sale from 4-6. Not sure what we'll do for dinner, but I really don't care. I just want to spend it with the ones that actually love me, and that's not wh. He won't get home until around 7/8 anyways, never has gotten off early for vday, he'll probably stop at the store on the way home and get me chocolate, whatever they have left that he thinks I'll want, and that will be that.

I just want my babies to have a good day and a fun day, no stress or tension (except for the first cookie sale of the year stress). There's no reason they can't feel all the love and happiness on vday, even if I don't.

What are your plans, avoiding, doing something special with your kids, or with ws?

BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 10, DS 7, DS 6.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 718 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
♀ 41961
Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is senior night at the high school, my son is a senior. I will walk with him to present him to the school as his mom. Dad may be there if he chooses. Usually the senior presents their mom with a rose. That will be the only gift I will expect

I did get a generic card for WH. No mush this year. I give up. L appt is on the 12... happy v-day... I want a D

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 423 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
♀ 41377
Member # 41377
Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want nothing from wh. I just might shove the gift, card, chocolates, or whatever up his ass If anything we will probably all go out to eat-kids and all-- because that's really who I want to be with anyway. They are the true loves of my life

Posts: 143 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 42192
Member # 42192
Default  Posted: 4:13 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wan booked a motel to take OW away... That's howitzer found out So V day is going to be a HUGE trigger for me.

I've planned to have a candlelit dinner with my girls...

On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
♀ 32753
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 4:42 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H has class that day… Wondering if he's going to dress up extra nice to impress the TA, or make jokes with her, or get candy in class…

Me? I'm going to stay in with my toddler son and get as much sleep as he'll let me. And maybe order Thai food.

Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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