Final divorce settlement still to do, and there is sh*t in the house that he says he wants. I am NC after a stupid series of texts that made me look (and feel, quite frankly) desperate for him back. I am getting stronger every day, but still fear that I am too codependent to say "no" if he tries to come back or to say "oh well" if he doesn't try.
To put the house on market and get over the process, there are things he says he wants from the house and I am fine with him just taking them. BUT that means he has to come over, I have to be there to be sure he doesn't take anything else, etc. I don't want to do that and I don't have any friends who could just be there for that, either. Some of it is in the basement and will be a pain in the *ss to bring up (a large exercise equipment piece, a heavy table he built, etc.) and the other is the collection of tools that we built together (that my father had given him half of, btw). If it wasn't so difficult, I would just move it all up myself and put it in the backyard so he could collect it without coming into the house - but I don't want to look like the "angry ex" any more than I want to look like the "desperately needy ex" so I don't know what to do.
How have you handled this in the past? What is the best way to do it?