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peoplepleaser posted 2/11/2014 10:33 AM

Last night she asks to talk and agrees to transparency. Then she says she will call a couples therapist today and bood an appointment for us so that we have an emotionally safe place to process the EAs. Then she asked me to dinner Friday. Of the four parts we need to agree to R, I am seeing three with the promise of one. She is not engaging in an A right now, she is in IC and we are scheduling MC, and she is being transparent. She claims she feels remorse but is not yet ready to express it, which is part of the MC work.

So, I'm cautiously dumping the 180 and going to dinner for Valentines Day. I'm hopeful.

ziganska posted 2/11/2014 10:53 AM

Yay, Peoplepleaser! Any and all steps forward are good and in the right direction! That fourth part will come in time for sure!

norabird posted 2/11/2014 11:18 AM

Wishing you the very best and that all these signs will turn out to be the real thing. (((hugs))) If you see any backsliding, you'll know what to do; but I hope you don't get put in that position.

NeverAgain2013 posted 2/11/2014 15:25 PM

She is not engaging in an A right now...

Good luck to you. When having to make statements like the quoted one above, it just kind of drives home the point of how skewed our realities have become compared to others who haven't dealt with this.

NeverAgain2013 posted 2/11/2014 15:25 PM

She is not engaging in an A right now...

Good luck to you. When having to make statements like the quoted one above, it just kind of drives home the point of how skewed our realities have become compared to others who haven't dealt with this.

NeverAgain2013 posted 2/11/2014 15:25 PM

She is not engaging in an A right now...

Good luck to you. When having to make statements like the quoted one above, it just kind of drives home the point of how skewed our realities have become compared to others who haven't dealt with this.

iamsoblind42 posted 2/11/2014 16:47 PM

Happy Valentines Day. I hope you have a wonderful dinner.

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