For the record, my first dday of MANY from Nov. 2012-Jan 2014. The lies just keep unflolding.
Sending you strength.
"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown
You're right. I actually DO want to make it about the kids. I want to see them wake up and get their Valentine gifts from me. That's the best gift.
I feel like I can't do it. I can't let him treat me this way. What kind of example am I setting to my boys, "oh, you're bartender dad was getting college chicks drunk and dating when you were babies." It's disgusting. AT LEAST if he loved one of them, fine, leave me. But, sadly this is not my case. I WISH he would've came to me sorrowful and confessed to one OW. Nope, I wasn't so lucky. At least those type of WS have some kind of empathy, compassion, and love inside them....
Sorry I have no advice for you apart from to just "DO" what suits you.
All these special days that come along just add more pain on pain to the life we have to endure.
My WH stopped sending me Valentine cards/flowers 3yrs after we married. I now know why .Shame he didn't tell me .
He has to this day always said we didn't need a special day to remind each other how much in love we are .
Yeah they are full of it.
My WH would not be able to tell you the date even .
Make's it even harder for me as its only 3 days before our wedding anniversary.
My D/Day was on our 35th wedding anniversary last year.
Will be interesting to see what happens this year
I have never been super big on valentine's day...it was no big deal.
Now...I made it clear it is a big deal, I want to feel special, I want to be a pre-thought not an after thought. I am not going to have Any other girl have gotten more attention/gifts/affection than he gives me now.
I know it seems twisted but I want him to go the extra mile for me now because he didn't before...I want him to prove that I am more special to him than they were.
Just my two cents
He has NO CLUE the FIRST time he stepped out but, as of Valentines last year he was deep into an A.
He swears he gave her nothing, no card, flowers, gifts...he's a fucking liar.
Ugh, I really am trying. I got him a card, just not sure I will give it to him.
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
Life is not measured by the breaths we take
but by the moments that take our breath away.
I do know (because I check his email) that he is delivering my v-day present to my work. He LOVES doing that because all the ladies I work with think he is Sooooooooo sweet (*barf*) and I have to fake like things are just fine and dandy with us.
Don't leave town with him. If you must celebrate, do it with the kids and call it a day.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
This year I'm single, and I'm fine with that. I'm staying the night with a girl, and she said that we will watch a chick flick and drink wine.
I'm still not sure what I want or what we will do. Fortunately there was no Valentines for OW and WH, so I don't have to deal with that.
WH wants to do something special, "especially now". He's always done something like send flowers, always gotten me a card, typically last minute, and we've never made a huge deal of it.
I usually get him a card and something he wants/needs.
A couple of weeks ago I went card shopping and almost started crying in the aisle. So hard to find a "Husband" card that doesn't talk about how wonderful it is to have someone to count on, to trust, to depend on, who is faithful, etc...
He is trying so hard to do and be right, though, that I don't want to get him a silly or funny card - sometimes I have, but there is always a serious one as well.
I do have to work this weekend, though, so there is no chance of a romantic getaway.
Like anv5, though, I think I do want him to make a big deal. I will be disappointed if he doesn't. He'd just better not expect much from me. Although I do appreciate his efforts to do everything right to try to R, he's the one trying to woo me, not the other way around.
I just read a txt from his MCOW cafeteria worker - they are planning on getting together Friday for some "fun."
Yeah, and he wonders why I have no interest in sleeping in his bed. It was so hard not to ask him - "What?!?!? Your OWs and hookers aren't giving you enough?
My wayward wife made sure to ruin this holiday of love. Valentine's day is for lovers not cheaters.