AJs mom's thread got me to thinking.
In the last few weeks there's been some personnel chaos at my SOs office. This has meant a change to his schedule temporarily. He told me last week. He'll be working a swing shift on Thurs/Fri for a few weeks. Yep that means V-day too. This is fine. We don't usually celebrate those days. I'll get him a card probably but that's about it.
6 years ago, I was rapidly approaching D-day. It was a year when my X forgot V-day and My Bday a month later. The following year, in the middle of a brief false R on V-day, I was panicked b/c X wasn't where he was supposed to be. I was SURE he was with OW. He wasn't but ultimately didn't matter. Now, not only do I not really care that much about V-day, it doesn't even raise an eyebrow that my SO is working late that night. Peace is a lovely thing.
I will probably go skiing or some such fun all by myself w/o a care in the world on Friday night. Screw you Hallmark!
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
I get it. We really only do cards, maybe. And, a stupid company policy has H on a different airline this week, through an airport that cancels all the time, so, who knows if he'll even make it. I would have panicked years ago, with my ex. Now? Yeah, really not worked up at all. I have plans with a girlfriend, and Aussie has plans to babysit a little lady and take her out. (Friend's daughter). Again, years ago I would have freaked and worried and thought "the baby is only 18 months! H (at the time) could still go out and have a girlfriend and whatever!"
There are a lot of nice things...distance, peace, calm, trust, and an agreement that we don't really care about Feb. 14.
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
