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hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 7:55 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
I'm reminded how far away from DDay I am...on so many levels.
AJs mom's thread got me to thinking.
In the last few weeks there's been some personnel chaos at my SOs office. This has meant a change to his schedule temporarily. He told me last week. He'll be working a swing shift on Thurs/Fri for a few weeks. Yep that means V-day too. This is fine. We don't usually celebrate those days. I'll get him a card probably but that's about it.
6 years ago, I was rapidly approaching D-day. It was a year when my X forgot V-day and My Bday a month later. The following year, in the middle of a brief false R on V-day, I was panicked b/c X wasn't where he was supposed to be. I was SURE he was with OW. He wasn't but ultimately didn't matter. Now, not only do I not really care that much about V-day, it doesn't even raise an eyebrow that my SO is working late that night. Peace is a lovely thing.
I will probably go skiing or some such fun all by myself w/o a care in the world on Friday night. Screw you Hallmark!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 12:49 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
Isn't the distance from DD a blessing? Have a great day skiing!
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:22 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
Weatherly ( member #18222) posted at 6:56 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
I get it. We really only do cards, maybe. And, a stupid company policy has H on a different airline this week, through an airport that cancels all the time, so, who knows if he'll even make it. I would have panicked years ago, with my ex. Now? Yeah, really not worked up at all. I have plans with a girlfriend, and Aussie has plans to babysit a little lady and take her out. (Friend's daughter). Again, years ago I would have freaked and worried and thought "the baby is only 18 months! H (at the time) could still go out and have a girlfriend and whatever!"
There are a lot of nice things...distance, peace, calm, trust, and an agreement that we don't really care about Feb. 14.
Me-33 ,Two boys, 13 and 14
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
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