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hexed posted 2/11/2014 13:55 PM

I'm reminded how far away from DDay I am...on so many levels.

AJs mom's thread got me to thinking.

In the last few weeks there's been some personnel chaos at my SOs office. This has meant a change to his schedule temporarily. He told me last week. He'll be working a swing shift on Thurs/Fri for a few weeks. Yep that means V-day too. This is fine. We don't usually celebrate those days. I'll get him a card probably but that's about it.

6 years ago, I was rapidly approaching D-day. It was a year when my X forgot V-day and My Bday a month later. The following year, in the middle of a brief false R on V-day, I was panicked b/c X wasn't where he was supposed to be. I was SURE he was with OW. He wasn't but ultimately didn't matter. Now, not only do I not really care that much about V-day, it doesn't even raise an eyebrow that my SO is working late that night. Peace is a lovely thing.

I will probably go skiing or some such fun all by myself w/o a care in the world on Friday night. Screw you Hallmark!

risingfromashes posted 2/11/2014 18:49 PM

Isn't the distance from DD a blessing? Have a great day skiing!

jo2love posted 2/12/2014 08:22 AM

Weatherly posted 2/12/2014 12:56 PM

I get it. We really only do cards, maybe. And, a stupid company policy has H on a different airline this week, through an airport that cancels all the time, so, who knows if he'll even make it. I would have panicked years ago, with my ex. Now? Yeah, really not worked up at all. I have plans with a girlfriend, and Aussie has plans to babysit a little lady and take her out. (Friend's daughter). Again, years ago I would have freaked and worried and thought "the baby is only 18 months! H (at the time) could still go out and have a girlfriend and whatever!"

There are a lot of nice things...distance, peace, calm, trust, and an agreement that we don't really care about Feb. 14.