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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm reminded how far away from DDay I am...on so many levels.

AJs mom's thread got me to thinking.

In the last few weeks there's been some personnel chaos at my SOs office. This has meant a change to his schedule temporarily. He told me last week. He'll be working a swing shift on Thurs/Fri for a few weeks. Yep that means V-day too. This is fine. We don't usually celebrate those days. I'll get him a card probably but that's about it.

6 years ago, I was rapidly approaching D-day. It was a year when my X forgot V-day and My Bday a month later. The following year, in the middle of a brief false R on V-day, I was panicked b/c X wasn't where he was supposed to be. I was SURE he was with OW. He wasn't but ultimately didn't matter. Now, not only do I not really care that much about V-day, it doesn't even raise an eyebrow that my SO is working late that night. Peace is a lovely thing.

I will probably go skiing or some such fun all by myself w/o a care in the world on Friday night. Screw you Hallmark!

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Isn't the distance from DD a blessing? Have a great day skiing!

There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.
After litigation, lawyers and courtrooms, I went back to school and recieved my Masters in Conflict Resolution. Now a Mediator helping people avoid what I went through!

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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it. We really only do cards, maybe. And, a stupid company policy has H on a different airline this week, through an airport that cancels all the time, so, who knows if he'll even make it. I would have panicked years ago, with my ex. Now? Yeah, really not worked up at all. I have plans with a girlfriend, and Aussie has plans to babysit a little lady and take her out. (Friend's daughter). Again, years ago I would have freaked and worried and thought "the baby is only 18 months! H (at the time) could still go out and have a girlfriend and whatever!"

There are a lot of nice things...distance, peace, calm, trust, and an agreement that we don't really care about Feb. 14.

Me-32 ,Two boys, 13 and 11

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.

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