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So, it was thought to be over in May/June but today at my lunch OW lets me know she is sorry and that I will never hear of her again, but that I wasnt the only one who had been lied to (I warned her). She wouldnt really give me any answers. I gather she got dumped off in the last couple days so she suddenly sees through the lie and feels bad bc he didnt leave me (still w me moraless wench). Either way, I told her I basically forgive her and get what a good liar he is and good luck.

Guess whose crazy now, her bc my WH never spoke w her, they never had an affair and this is all crazy one-sided stuff...sure dear. UGH!!

Hang in there. A LOT more truth is coming.

Steel yourself for it.

And come here when times get tough. This place literally saved my life.

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Oh boy. I can only imagine what its like to be dealing with both parties eyes: I only talk to ws. I guess the upside to this shitstorm is ow stays out of my way and hides like the vermin she is.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 6:21 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]

The OW pulled that on me too " you have to understand I am just as shocked as you about all this" bull. She also tested him you will never know just how much you hurt me...effing really?!!! Let's have a selfish contest OW or my WH...the battle of selfish pricks edition. Like she had two kids and a nine year marriage with him. So it felt good when he left her high and dry and was more concerned with me. I want to shake the OW but there is no brain to shake in her...she also apologized and told me I should leave him...then was asking what our status was and how my girls were taking it she said she felt horribly about it and claimed she didn't know he was married...my WH said she knew the whole time and was just manipulating me...what a psycho...he told her not to ask about our status that it was none of her business and to stop contacting me she told him to fuck off...that she really meant it that everything was his fault and that was the end of that until this day I don't know which liar was telling truth

I never get truth, I wish I was about to get truth. My WH still denies the affair even though its 100% obvious. She wasnt giving much info, just saying sorry to clear her own guilt and blaming him. He says he never talked to her and now shes crazy (NOT ME THIS TIME!!) Im not feeling much emotion. I pretty well told him to not talk to me when he started saying theyve had no contact. So many lies I realized he could tell me 100% truth or 100% BS and it didnt matter bc I believe nothing that comes out of him. Deciding if I care enough to do anything about it this time. At the end of the day she disrupted my living in make believe land where we act like its ok bc WH wont deal with it. Only difference is Id thought it was over...guess not. But he did tell me I should be happy bc she is gone now regarless of how it went down

Wow. He is a real piece of work.

If he continued to deny I would leave his ass until he finally admitted...so Im guessing there have been no apologies or remorse since he has supposedly done nothing? Have you shoved the proof in his face and asked him about it? Where is your anger? He needs to fess up...how are you supposed to move forward? My WH denied the whole thing for about 2 weeks until I shoved the cell bill in his face...he now says because it was out of fear that I would leave him. I had to contact OW to get the truth...no admission from his mouth at all! Even when I left the house with my kids he was still denying...he didn't want to realize the mess he made and dominoes effect it caused. What are you going to do if he still refuses to admit? Have there been any consequences for him?

No punishment for him ever. I had filed and I thought it was over so after 6 months I dropped my petition(he only admitted a friendship which I knew was a lie but with a then 1 yr old the thought of going through with it, when I thought he was scared strait mixed w the rediculous amount of anti-divorce sermons our church had broke me down a bit and I stayed). Everyone knows he cheated but he thinks we are all dumb. It wont be on the cell bill, he learned that lesson. Facebook showed nothing but that means nothing. Im so worn down from him I havnt cried, I havnt yelled, Im not even numb, it just feels like nothing...Its a very odd place im in right now.

((HUGS))