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User Topic: We know a little bit more about HB. The #'s are in.
shortchanged38
♀ 42402
Member # 42402
Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would like to thank everyone who participated in the HB survey.

Thank you . We all know a little bit more about HB.

Now the numbers.

At the time of this (my) posting, there were 94 responses. Of that only 91 can be counted. I posted twice(I did the first and second post) and there was one "double post".

Here is the break down of 91 post/response to survey question

64 post replied YES
25 post replied NO
2 post replied UNSURE

Can someone do a percentages breakdown? I really don't know how to do that .


Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14

Posts: 15 | Registered: Feb 2014
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am an English major, so take it for what it is worth:

70% Yes
27% No
2% Unsure

(and 1% rounding error.)


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2156 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I missed it what was the question? Just curious so I can understand what the numbers mean.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
shortchanged38
♀ 42402
Member # 42402
Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The survey question

"Have you experienced HB after DDay?"

HB is short for hysterical bonding.


Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14

Posts: 15 | Registered: Feb 2014
Getting to Happy
♀ 35200
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can I vote now??

YES. It has tapered a bit but we are still at it...

It was very difficult to indulge in HB at first. I had to just get into the physical part of sex. I told Mr. Happy that after all these years my body knew his body so I could follow through. But the mind movies were horrible.

PainPainGoAway gave the link to a really great youtube. A bit gross but it really did the trick for me. Thank goodness because I really like sex and was pissed that the AP almost succeeded in repulsing me from my own husband. I know...he was a willing partner but I was able to...er...uh...perform because I put their 'lurrrve' into another catagory.

I am forever grateful for that video PPGA, Thanks!!

Their trysts had nothing to do with love, just base urges, they used each other at my expense.

Mr. Happy and I have so much more love and caring...

We are about 3 years out and the AP is more of a bad smell that wont go away instead of being the source of searing pain.

So that is my long answer...YES!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1144 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's another....Yes. We did HB.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2605 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
courageous
♀ 34477
Member # 34477
Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second painpaingoaway's video. It helped me soooo much.

The answer for me was yes also. I never saw the original question/ post about it either.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


Posts: 659 | Registered: Jan 2012
shortchanged38
♀ 42402
Member # 42402
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The original post is in the just found out forum.

The title is "Survey: Who experienced hysterical bonding and who didn't?"

It is a very interesting read.


Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14

Posts: 15 | Registered: Feb 2014
phoenixrise
♀ 41745
Member # 41745
Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Missed it my vote would have been yes...big hell yes...it got wild and crazy and was some of the best sex of my life!


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 213 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
lostinthesouth
♀ 41377
Member # 41377
Default  Posted: 12:55 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Getting to Happy & @courageous
PainPainGoAway gave the link to a really great youtube. A bit gross but it really did the trick for me.

I second painpaingoaway's video. It helped me soooo much.

maybe I need to see the video from PPGA bc nothing is helping me...

Posts: 113 | Registered: Nov 2013
freelancer
♀ 36529
Member # 36529
Default  Posted: 4:08 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And another YES, YES, YES. I am 5 months pregnant with a HB baby.


Me: BS, 35
Him: WH, 35
3beautiful babies, 7, 3 and 4 months
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.

Posts: 238 | Registered: Aug 2012
JanaGreen
♀ 29341
Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What was this video?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6923 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
freelancer
♀ 36529
Member # 36529
Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes! Anyone that can PM me the link to the video, it would be much appreciated.


Me: BS, 35
Him: WH, 35
3beautiful babies, 7, 3 and 4 months
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.

Posts: 238 | Registered: Aug 2012
Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another yes.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6646 | Registered: Jan 2011
RedRose
♀ 39584
Member # 39584
Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes for me too.


BW-35
WH - 35
2.5 year LTA

Posts: 160 | Registered: Jun 2013
20WrongsVs1
♀ 39000
Member # 39000
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't think I'm allowed to post in JFO.

Yes.


fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

Posts: 1252 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
foolishlycluless
♀ 41404
Member # 41404
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, please post the link for the video!!


BW 55
WH 59
M 30 yrs, together 33 yrs, no children.
D-Day #1: 9/23/2013, EA 15+ months, PA with 34 YO business assoc
D-Day #2: 11/27/2013, OW, EA for 2-3 yrs (2005-2007), PA
D-Day #3: 6/6/2014, found the sex video
Status: Putting on my bitch bo

Posts: 122 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Washington DC
outtanowhere
♀ 39001
Member # 39001
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes and a big amen to phoenixrise's post! By far the most baffling human emotion I've ever experienced. Still don't really understand it!


BS - 58
SAWH - 61 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 38 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

Posts: 778 | Registered: Apr 2013
ladycody
♀ 41401
Member # 41401
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me too please?


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

Posts: 130 | Registered: Nov 2013
Neverwudaguessed
♀ 41884
Member # 41884
Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

please; can anyone give the link to that video?

Thank you!


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 741 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
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