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shortchanged38 (original poster new member #42402) posted at 11:49 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
I would like to thank everyone who participated in the HB survey.
Thank you . We all know a little bit more about HB.
Now the numbers.
At the time of this (my) posting, there were 94 responses. Of that only 91 can be counted. I posted twice(I did the first and second post) and there was one "double post".
Here is the break down of 91 post/response to survey question
64 post replied YES
25 post replied NO
2 post replied UNSURE
Can someone do a percentages breakdown? I really don't know how to do that .
Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 11:53 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
I am an English major, so take it for what it is worth:
70% Yes
27% No
2% Unsure
(and 1% rounding error.)
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 12:17 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
I missed it 
what was the question? Just curious so I can understand what the numbers mean.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
shortchanged38 (original poster new member #42402) posted at 12:21 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
The survey question
"Have you experienced HB after DDay?"
HB is short for hysterical bonding.
Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 3:08 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
Can I vote now??
YES. It has tapered a bit but we are still at it... 
It was very difficult to indulge in HB at first. I had to just get into the physical part of sex. I told Mr. Happy that after all these years my body knew his body so I could follow through. But the mind movies were horrible. 
PainPainGoAway gave the link to a really great youtube. A bit gross but it really did the trick for me. Thank goodness because I really like sex and was pissed that the AP almost succeeded in repulsing me from my own husband. I know...he was a willing partner 
but I was able to...er...uh...perform because I put their 'lurrrve' into another catagory.
I am forever grateful for that video PPGA, Thanks!! 
Their trysts had nothing to do with love, just base urges, they used each other at my expense.
Mr. Happy and I have so much more love and caring...
We are about 3 years out and the AP is more of a bad smell that wont go away instead of being the source of searing pain.
So that is my long answer...YES! 
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 3:09 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
Here's another....Yes. We did HB.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
courageous ( member #34477) posted at 3:22 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
I second painpaingoaway's video. It helped me soooo much.
The answer for me was yes also. I never saw the original question/ post about it either.
Me: BW (in my 40's) Him: ExWH EA/PA with MOW coworker(also married). He ended up marrying his mistress.
shortchanged38 (original poster new member #42402) posted at 3:38 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
The original post is in the just found out forum.
The title is "Survey: Who experienced hysterical bonding and who didn't?"
It is a very interesting read.
Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14
phoenixrise ( member #41745) posted at 6:32 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
Missed it my vote would have been yes...big hell yes...it got wild and crazy and was some of the best sex of my life!
"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul
lostinthesouth ( member #41377) posted at 6:55 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
@Getting to Happy & @courageous
PainPainGoAway gave the link to a really great youtube. A bit gross but it really did the trick for me.
I second painpaingoaway's video. It helped me soooo much.
maybe I need to see the video from PPGA bc nothing is helping me...
freelancer ( member #36529) posted at 10:08 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
And another YES, YES, YES. I am 5 months pregnant with a HB baby. 
Me: BS, 38
Him: WH, 38
3 beautiful babies, 9, 6 and 3
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 3:00 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
freelancer ( member #36529) posted at 12:52 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes! Anyone that can PM me the link to the video, it would be much appreciated.
Me: BS, 38
Him: WH, 38
3 beautiful babies, 9, 6 and 3
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 12:55 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
RedRose ( member #39584) posted at 2:33 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
20WrongsVs1 ( member #39000) posted at 2:40 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Don't think I'm allowed to post in JFO.
Yes.
fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."
foolishlycluless ( member #41404) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes, please post the link for the video!!
Me: BW; married 36 years; now happily divorced.
XWH: Not a bad person; just made bad choices. Now living with OW.
outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes and a big amen to phoenixrise's post! By far the most baffling human emotion I've ever experienced. Still don't really understand it!
Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story
ladycody ( member #41401) posted at 5:37 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Neverwudaguessed ( member #41884) posted at 5:43 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
please; can anyone give the link to that video?
Thank you!
BW: 46 Me
WH:50
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 15
DD 13
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