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Topic: We know a little bit more about HB. The #'s are in.
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shortchanged38
♀ 42402
Member # 42402 |  Posted: 5:49 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 |     |
I would like to thank everyone who participated in the HB survey.
Thank you . We all know a little bit more about HB.
Now the numbers.
At the time of this (my) posting, there were 94 responses. Of that only 91 can be counted. I posted twice(I did the first and second post) and there was one "double post".
Here is the break down of 91 post/response to survey question
64 post replied YES
25 post replied NO
2 post replied UNSURE
Can someone do a percentages breakdown? I really don't know how to do that .
Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14
Posts: 15 | Registered: Feb 2014 |
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803 | | Posted: 5:53 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I am an English major, so take it for what it is worth:
70% Yes
27% No
2% Unsure
(and 1% rounding error.)
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Posts: 3372 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA |
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827 | | Posted: 6:17 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I missed it  what was the question? Just curious so I can understand what the numbers mean.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
Posts: 5734 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest |
shortchanged38
♀ 42402
Member # 42402 | | Posted: 6:21 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
The survey question
"Have you experienced HB after DDay?"
HB is short for hysterical bonding.
Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14
Posts: 15 | Registered: Feb 2014 |
Getting to Happy
♀ 35200
Member # 35200 | | Posted: 9:08 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Can I vote now??
YES. It has tapered a bit but we are still at it... 
It was very difficult to indulge in HB at first. I had to just get into the physical part of sex. I told Mr. Happy that after all these years my body knew his body so I could follow through. But the mind movies were horrible. 
PainPainGoAway gave the link to a really great youtube. A bit gross but it really did the trick for me. Thank goodness because I really like sex and was pissed that the AP almost succeeded in repulsing me from my own husband. I know...he was a willing partner  but I was able to...er...uh...perform because I put their 'lurrrve' into another catagory.
I am forever grateful for that video PPGA, Thanks!! 
Their trysts had nothing to do with love, just base urges, they used each other at my expense.
Mr. Happy and I have so much more love and caring...
We are about 3 years out and the AP is more of a bad smell that wont go away instead of being the source of searing pain.
So that is my long answer...YES! 
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
Posts: 1254 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land |
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384 | | Posted: 9:09 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Here's another....Yes. We did HB.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 3437 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh |
courageous
♀ 34477
Member # 34477 | | Posted: 9:22 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I second painpaingoaway's video. It helped me soooo much.
The answer for me was yes also. I never saw the original question/ post about it either.
Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012
Exwh married his AP
My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.
Posts: 812 | Registered: Jan 2012 |
shortchanged38
♀ 42402
Member # 42402 | | Posted: 9:38 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
The original post is in the just found out forum.
The title is "Survey: Who experienced hysterical bonding and who didn't?"
It is a very interesting read.
Me 38
WS 36
OW Co-worker
A lasted 2 years total
DDay #1 1-3-13
DDay #2 4-15-13
D 1-10-14
Posts: 15 | Registered: Feb 2014 |
phoenixrise
♀ 41745
Member # 41745 | | Posted: 12:32 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Missed it my vote would have been yes...big hell yes...it got wild and crazy and was some of the best sex of my life!
"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul
Posts: 213 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno |
lostinthesouth
♀ 41377
Member # 41377 | | Posted: 12:55 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
@Getting to Happy & @courageous
PainPainGoAway gave the link to a really great youtube. A bit gross but it really did the trick for me.
I second painpaingoaway's video. It helped me soooo much.
maybe I need to see the video from PPGA bc nothing is helping me...
Posts: 141 | Registered: Nov 2013 |
freelancer
♀ 36529
Member # 36529 | | Posted: 4:08 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
And another YES, YES, YES. I am 5 months pregnant with a HB baby. 
Me: BS, 36
Him: WH, 36
3 beautiful babies, 8, 5 and 2
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.
Posts: 254 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
JanaGreen
♀ 29341
Member # 29341 | | Posted: 9:00 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
He's 41, I'm 35. One awesome 6-year-old daughter, and a brand-new sweet baby boy, June 5.
Posts: 7716 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: The land of a thousand guilts and poured cement |
freelancer
♀ 36529
Member # 36529 | | Posted: 6:52 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Yes! Anyone that can PM me the link to the video, it would be much appreciated.
Me: BS, 36
Him: WH, 36
3 beautiful babies, 8, 5 and 2
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.
Posts: 254 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817 | | Posted: 6:55 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Posts: 7763 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
RedRose
♀ 39584
Member # 39584 | | Posted: 8:33 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Yes for me too.
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
Posts: 164 | Registered: Jun 2013 |
20WrongsVs1
♀ 39000
Member # 39000 | | Posted: 8:40 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Don't think I'm allowed to post in JFO.
Yes.
fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."
Posts: 1523 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: The First Coast |
foolishlycluless
♀ 41404
Member # 41404 | | Posted: 8:44 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Yes, please post the link for the video!!
BW 55
WH 59
M 30 yrs, together 33 yrs, no children.
D-Day #1: 9/23/2013, EA 15+ months, PA with 34 YO business assoc
D-Day #2: 11/27/2013, OW, EA for 2-3 yrs (2005-2007), PA
D-Day #3: 6/6/2014, found the sex video
Status: Putting on my bitch bo
Posts: 139 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Washington DC |
outtanowhere
♀ 39001
Member # 39001 | | Posted: 8:44 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Yes and a big amen to phoenixrise's post! By far the most baffling human emotion I've ever experienced. Still don't really understand it!
Me-clueless BS
Dday - 2/19/13
“I can't go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Posts: 946 | Registered: Apr 2013 |
ladycody
♀ 41401
Member # 41401 | | Posted: 11:37 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Me too please?
Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years
Posts: 131 | Registered: Nov 2013 |
Neverwudaguessed
♀ 41884
Member # 41884 | | Posted: 11:43 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014 | |
please; can anyone give the link to that video?
Thank you!
BW: 46 Me
WH:50
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 15
DD 13
Posts: 1705 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York |
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