I am wondering if folks could share their custody schedules here, so I could get a sense of the possibilities? My best guess is that the custody will be roughly 50-50, once we get it approved, but I would also be interested from hearing from folks who have a custody schedule that is not 50-50.
Thanks in advance.
Because of trust issues and the OM's prior history of violent behavior (and her history of histrionics and lots of FOO issues), I do all dropoffs separate to avoid her blaming me of anything. So I don't see her. I moved out and got a house with a bedroom for each kid, and furnished it with basic IKEA stuff. She says she wants to keep the house "for the kids".
- I pick up Fri night (I send someone) and return them Thu AM (dropoff @school). That's my "long" week.
- The next weekend they are with STBXWW. I then pick up Sun night (I send someone) and return them Wed AM (dropoff @school). Then I pick up again Friday.
It leaves me at about 60% and her at 40%. She has lots of time to spend with OM now, and apparently takes full advantage of it.
But at least I get my kids for most of the time, so it's not like anything has changed from the time she'd go off for days on end.
And the joke will be on her at the custody hearing.
There are four extra weekends that come out of this and we can split those to get an extra weekend out of our week of possession OR to make up for what was explained above.
STBXW doesn't like it. I say tough cookies, it's the cost of being selfish and having an A.
She's too young for every other week, but we may go to that or to the 3-4-4-3 when she gets to be school age. If you google around or look on about.com there are a lot of examples. The 2-2-3 is the best 50/50 arrangement for a very young child because they don't go so long without seeing a parent. But it does mean more back and forth. For older kids, I would try to minimize transitions and maybe do week on, week off, with one dinner/afternoon visit with the non-weekly parent during the week.